You cannot ‘cruise’ in a relationship.
You must show up every single day.
Are you stuck wondering why you feel a lack of love for your partner?
Pablo Heimplatz
They wont allow themselves to consider that it needs nurturing and a steady amount of work to flourish.
When a relationship falls apart, certain things or realizations may happen.
Perhaps it is that you feel you no longer have anything in common with each other.
Pablo Heimplatz
Maybe youre constantly arguing with your significant other.
Do you resent being in their presence more often than not?
Have you stopped feeling attraction toward your partner?
All these issues are salvageable.
We can come back from each of them.
You just have to agree to put in the work!
A lack of effort.
Which then gives way to the aforementioned problems.
An idea so easy to comprehend but which we react to with anger because surely not!
we would never intentionally let a good thing turn sour.
Im talking about the kind of relationship where the loved-up honeymoon stage was so damn perfect.
It may have lasted for quite some time.
Maybe you even called your partner perfect, finding them practicallyfaultless(OMG!
how can this be?).
Perhaps you were mesmerised and wrapped up in the blissful feelings of love you two share.
And then one day it stops feeling so rosy.
You dont like how youre feeling in the relationship now.
Certain traits and characteristics you found quirky or captivating in your partner are now leaving you irritated and frustrated.
Your partner is distant and you no longer know how to communicate with them.
You believe its only going to get worse.
The bickering, picking ateach others faults, a lack of gratitude for each other.
It goes on and on.
Until you decide youve had enough.
It wasnt meant to be [this hard].
Perhaps you believe it requires too much effort.
So you cruise on auto pilot, hoping its enough to satisfy your partner and your own needs.
Save yourself being hurt.
This is where it comes undone.
You cannot cruise in a relationship.
You must show up every single day.
So when your partner argues, it is because they haveneeds that arent being met.
The argument is their way of bringing a problem to light.
Instead of getting aggravated by each others words, take a step back.
Dont let it turn into a full-blown shout-fest.
Give them a safe space to voice their concerns and to be heard.
Take a moment to internalize what theyre truly trying to tell you.
I think a key part of having a healthy relationship is that you arepresent.
By this I mean you are conscious of your partners feelings.
Understanding when the relationship requires more work in a certain area.
Resolving to sort arguments out through listening, compassion, and understanding.
Taking pride in the small acts of effort that make your relationship beautiful.
Being active and not passive in your love.
A small mindset shift that frees you from feeling like a victim.
The quality of your loving in is in the hands of both you and your partner.
Your relationship is entirely up to you.
They are there to serve you and your partner in creating a beautiful bond.
