We fret over the smallest of things.
We overthink until we feel like our heads will explode.
We think and think and think.
Jordan Whitfield
It never turns off.
It never slows or quiets down.
No way out when we are already in over our heads.
There is no off button for when our anxiety hits us.
And when it comes knocking, we suffer.
So it’s possible for you to imagine how hard dating is for us.
Jordan Whitfield
We fret over the smallest of things.
We overthink until we feel like our heads will explode.
We think and think and think.
It never turns off.
It never slows or quiets down.
See, anxiety doesnt care if we want to date.
Anxiety doesnt care if we have a crush on someone new.
Anxiety frankly doesnt care if we are entering into a new relationship.
My anxiety intensifies as soon as my butterflies take flight.
Forget about staying calm during a first date, I am always one drink away from canceling it.
Forget about staying chill and cool, I am a nervous, anxious and awkward mess.
I immediately think of everything that could go wrong.Is he going to kill me?
Is he a major creep?
What if he thinks Im awkward?
What if I get too drunk?
What if I kiss him but he doesnt want to kiss me?
What if I run out of things to say?
What if I really like him but he doesnt like me and never calls again?
Not even a glass of wine or a shot can ease my nerves before the dreaded date happens.
By the time Im finally sitting down waiting for the guy, Im covered in sweat and regret.
The initial fear I have before a first date is down right excruciating.
So you might understand why people with anxiety despise dating.
Dating is hard for everyone.
Its exhausting and tiresome and sometimes disgusting.
Its hard and is most definitely not a walk in the park.
And for people with anxiety, dating is literally like climbing Mount Everest or running through a blizzard.
Its not just as simple as two people meeting for coffee or drinks.
For people with anxiety, its so much more than that.
People with anxiety tend to not date much because it is so overwhelming for them.
And I know that might seem crazy or overdramatic.
But its a big feat for us to go through with it and to come out alive.
And the first date is just thefirstmountain to climb and conquer.
Its not the end of the game or battle.
Its not even near the end of our worries.
It doesnt stop as soon as we find the one.
Anxiety is an ongoing journey.
A never ending adventure of ups and downs and even more downs.
Put yourself in their shoes.
Have compassion and empathy, even if you cant quite understand it.
