Intensity isn’t love.
If youve been in a relationship thus far, you know what Im talking about.
Relationships are a mirror, as they teach you so much about yourself.
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I thought it was my fault that my partners werent meeting my needs.
I was picking the wrong partners.
But it wasnt because of me or any of the other reasons I originally thought.
I had never experienced true love.
But I had experienced addiction.
But let me explainitll make sense soon.
I had an intense, fiery passion with my past partner.
My partner would go from making me feel incredibly seen and loved to deeply anxious and unheard.
The unstable connection created an intensity that I thought was love.
In other words, intensity isnt love.
And when you do, the high is powerful.
As crazy as this may seem, it is a very common theme in todays dating world.
Have you ever sat by your phone, anxiously waiting for a response?
Were they ever not fully sure of you or have commitment issues?
Did they lack consistency?
Whatever way they left you hanging, they were also the one to patch it up.
And this, my friends, creates an addiction we call love.
And how would we know differently?
And when you feel calm in a relationship, it may not be as intense.
You may think you arent experiencing as strong of a connection, because it doesnt make you on edge.
Imagine feeling calm, loved, and supported.
And imagine if this is real love.
Youll learn about someone slowly instead of sharply.
And youll see action instead of words.
And finally, youll know what love truly means.
