It’s so easy to get demotivated, to let the inaction swallow you up.
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Updated 6 years ago,July 17, 2019
So.
Maybe its depression, maybe its a bad circumstance, maybe its just a rough patch.
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and that other people have it harder than us.
Its so easy to get demotivated, to let the inaction swallow you up.
But youre not here for the easy.
You clicked on this article.
So, let me take you on a profanity-laden journey to finding your more motivated life.
Bonus: youll be rid of a lot of deadweight friends in the end.
Youre about to suffer, so give yourself permission to swear, and swear profusely.
You brave motherfucker, you.
You want to live a more motivated, driven, and purposeful life.
Theres no room for psychological evasiveness, a la RuPauls Drag Race.
you oughta be brutally honest with yourself, or else there is no point in doing this.
(Around this time, your newly found ability to swear should start surfacing.)
Yes, I am talking about your shitty job, and your mean friends, and your asshole boyfriend.
Is this acceptable to you, and what are you going to fucking do about it?
Day 4: No really, what are you going to do about it?
Heres your first list of the month all the stuff that pissed you off yesterday?
And the stuff that pissed you off before then?
And the stuff that should have been pissing you off, but you told yourself wasnt so bad?
(Remember day 2: You are honest with yourself, if not with anybody else).
Write it down, and start thinking of ways to fix that.
Have a nice life.
Hey dirty plates, were not growing Penicillin here, so its time for a good scrubbing.
Housework will never look boring to you again.
Day 7: Yes, money is scary.
Deal with it, anyway.
The only people who enjoy sifting through bank statements are accountants.
Accept it, and pull up your spending record anyway.
Youre a grownup being able to balance a budget is an essential part of life.
Money allows you to be independent.
Day 8: Did you look at your spending already?
Yes, you did spend a lot on coffee dates with people you hated.
You spent more on fast fashion to impress the jerks you were hanging out with.
You spent twice as much on cocktails and parties you did not want to attend.
Do the sums, and then memorize the total: That is the cost of your complacency.
Rememberthatthe next time youre tempted to go with the flow.
Day 9: So hows your job going?
If not, its time to strategize.
Lets say you really want to move up the company.
Day 11: Read the news.
So far weve been focusing on your life and your relationships.
Day 11 is about looking beyond your career and your home, and the world around you.
Even if you find newspapers boring, read them anyway.
Depressing as they are, we need to follow the news.
You want to soften your language for them?
Fuck that shit the planet is burning, anybody who complains about your cursing has the wrong priorities.
Day 13: Remember why you are doing this
By this point, youre probably very lonely.
Take this day to remember why you wanted to do this in the first place.
Chances are, it wasnt because you were overjoyed with how things were.
You cant live a motivated, purposeful life, and be palatable to everyone else.
You need something to be passionate about, and that something will not be to everyones taste.
Day 14: Review your goals: do you need help?
Have you bitten off more than you’re able to chew?
Do you need a therapist?
Do you feel overwhelmed and not knowing where to begin?
There are dishes in the sink.
Start by washing those.
you might call a therapist in the afternoon if you have to.
Pick a local cause and go volunteering to the best of your ability.
Staff a food bank.
Pet abandoned cats and dogs.
Or, at the very least, a very big muting.
The former are good apples.
The latter are energy vampires.
Luckily, thats what the block button is for.
Day 18: Go do something you always wanted to do.
Bonus points if your ex-man or ex-friends would absolutely hate it.
Try even if it scares you to have a conversation with someone about a serious topic.
Something you care for a lot, something that you dont know but you want to learn more of.
Were afraid of being uncool, or to talk about the things that truly weigh heavy on our hearts.
Day 21: Remember your career plan?
Is there a course you should probably enroll on?
A performance review you need?
A job to apply for?
Today is the day for that.
Day 22: Change your locks
Remember those energy vampires from a few days ago?
A few of them might have a key to your house?
Youve got a purpose, and youre on your way to making new friends already.
We consume a lot.
Other people train for marathons you are training your motivation.
Day 25: Speaking of marathons, how do you feel about your physical fitness?
Im not telling you to hit the gym every day if you dont want to.
Or, if you like swimming, how about making plans to visit the pool this week.
You might have made a new friend at volunteering, or at work.
Discuss your own hopes and dreams.
Itll be good to have an audience that cares.
Its about acknowledging your own power.
Now, its time to think about where you want to go.
What do you want to change?
What do you want your legacy to be?
Give yourself space today, and dream.
Share it with your friends.
Let them help you.
Day 29: Give yourself permission to be fallible
You will get things wrong.
Thats okay youre only human.
Take the feedback, thank the person who gave it to you, reset, and adjust.
Day 30: What kind of example do you want to set?
Somewhere down the line, youll end up in a mentoring role.
This happens a lot because a purposeful life requires compassion, empathy, and strong moral values.
What kind of example do you want to set for them?
Having boundaries but also compassion?
Being able to give without expecting a return?
Being able to show up?
Treating your fellow adults with respect?
