It’s your journey - how you take it is entirely up to you.
Its your journey how you take it is entirely up to you.
Day 1: Name Your Pain
Take your time with that one, and be extremely specific.
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At this point, youve been living with this pain enough to be sick of it.
You know that letting go of it will have a positive impact on your life.
Just ensure you have a regular reminder of why youre doing this and what you are letting go of.
Be specific use your script from day 2 if you have to.
What is important is this: They need to love you, and they need to be merciless.
And, occasionally, Would I need this in the future?
(Think Legal documents and professional qualifications.)
Can you do that the previous two days?
But I would advise against it.
Secondly, being alone in a newly tidied house can make you antsy.
Day 10: Make Two Lists
Grab a piece of paper.
Pick three things from the second list and research the ones nearest to you.
What are they about?
How much effort would they require?
How much do they cost?
But also, you need new passions in your life.
Are you getting enough sleep?
Are you eating food that you find delicious?
(Or shout and punch a pillow.
Or turn up your music and scream along to Lorde.
Whatever mood strikes you.)
Take as long as you need, until the emotion has spent itself.
For recovery, take your story from day 1, and your intention from day 2.
Reread both, taking your time to let the words sink in.
Notice the anguish in your voice, the difficulty in writing the words.
Cry a bit again, if you have to.
Heres the tea: chances are, it was not all that bad.
Its not either/or: it was both, and the bad stuff made you want to leave.
Day 17: Make Another List
Write out a list of your achievements.
Then write out a list of reasons why you, objectively, achieved them.
Dont be tempted to editorialize, aka I only got it because the teacher liked me.
You got it because you worked for it.
Day 18-20: Start Habits That Make You Happy
Remember that activity you tried earlier?
On day 11 even?
Did you like it?
Did you want to do it again?
If not, what would you like to do instead?
What would make you excited to get out of bed in the morning?
Have a nice catch-up, a roast, or just a day/night out with friends.
How does spending time with your people feel like?
Do you want to do more?
Who are suddenly disinterested in you, now that youre no longer miserable?
Are they happy to see you improve, or are they forcing you to remember bad times?
In the past, you may have held onto the wishy-washy and the jerks because you had no-one else.
Or, maybe they were just okay, but now you see you just hang out because of habit.
You go to work, you come home.
You fix the same food you always have, do the same things to unwind.
Remember: boredom is good.
Yes, its not nearly as exciting, but its also self-protective and self-loving.
Day 25: Brace Yourself For A Surprise Storm
Remember those dust candies tumbling out of pockets?
Or those emotional vampires you just banished?
Check-in with your intentions if you have to.
Day 26: Acknowledge You Got Through
So you survived the storm.
You may be rattled, but you got through.
Meanwhile, if you didnt give in, you may be wondering if it was a fluke.
Pat yourself in the back either way.
Next time, youll know better.
Once thats done, turn the page.
Take as long as you need, and be as extravagant as you want.
The first list is what you got out of the bad situation, the stuff that kept you stuck.
Day 28: Allow A Private Moment Of Grace
Maybe youre still feeling dubious or rattled.
This day is your permission to do it in PRIVATE.
Thank them for the true moments of selflessness, for the honesty, for the support.
Once youre done, stick it in a drawer and dont send it.
Put it in one place and look at it as a whole.
You know yourself better now.
Day 30: Keep Going
Writing your future happens every day.
Sometimes you will have to repeat old steps, just to remind yourself of your power.
Some things might set you back thats okay.
The important bit is to keep going, to work hard, and to resolve to always do better.
Youve got what it takes to move on and heal.
