You’re attracted to relationships that require fighting.
You think you have to do something to receive love.
You think you have to overcome a crisis and suffer.
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These thoughts are struggle-love.
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Updated 2 months ago,March 4, 2025
Youre attracted to relationships that require fighting.
You think you have to do something to receive love.
You think you have to overcome a crisis and suffer.
These thoughts are struggle-love.
You believe this is how relationships should be because its what youve always known.
No one told you that a person could fall in love withyou.
Youll realize that you dont have to like people at the sacrifice of yourself constantly.
Youre looking for real love.
Youre a giver, but sometimes you get confused for a cheerleader.
Struggle-love is being with a partner that doesnt know if they want you.
Struggle-love is full of excuses.
Theres never enough time, money, or patience for you.
The truth is, love takes work and sacrificeon both parts.
There are no victims in love, only fighters.
Thats where we often go wrong.
Struggle-love is full of fixing.
Youre improving their esteem, pushing them to see the bright side of life.
Theyre miserable, blame the world, and have a chip on their shoulder.
While its good to uplift your partner, this is a two-way street.
They shouldnt leave you feeling more depleted than ever.
Struggle-love is full of begging.
Youre praying for decent sex or a little intimacy.
When youve expressed your desires, your partner says youre nagging, too emotional or clingy.
Struggle-love is full of poverty.
Your lover cant keep a job.
They cant seem to manage or save money but want you to have their babies.
Continual financial problems can build resentment, causing relationship breakups that could have been avoided with a financial plan.
Say no to struggle-love.
I know its complicated, because struggle-lovers are mysterious and passionate.
You cant help but feel attracted to them.
Being with someone who likes you and has their shit together seems, well, kinda dull.
With time, youll find the right balance.
Say no to struggle-love by choosing people who choose you.
Be with someone who takes responsibility for their growth and doesnt let their ego rule entirely over them.
Say no to struggle-love by building your esteem.
Listen to kind words.
Surround yourself with people that affirm you.
Take responsibility for your emotions.
Dont rely on your partner to regularly make you feel better.
Learn how to make yourself happy.
Say no to struggle-love by finding examples of people whose character you admire.
Maybe its how they take care of their family.
Perhaps its the way they always speak with respect.
Maybe its their positive outlook in life, work ethic, or ambition.
Many people suffer relationship hurt; as a result, theyre angry.
They hate women and they hate men instead of seeing the value we both bring.
Keep your heart open by resisting the urge to shutallpeople out because of your pain.
Say no to struggle-love by setting boundaries about what you want and deserve.
Attraction and desire for someone can quickly take you off track.
Im not saying it will be easy, but it doesnt have to be more complicated than necessary.
Say yes to more peace of mind, joy, and comfort.
You dont have to fight continually to receive the love you deserve.
This year, say no to struggle-love.
