Sometimes its not personal… and sometimes it is.
Sometimes these people can stay in your life if they re on a growing path.
If theyre not, however, you will naturally distance yourself because you dont have aligning views and values.
A L L E F . V I N I C I U S Δ
As humans, we never stop growing, learning, or evolving.
Some people are only meant to be in our lives for a reason or season.
Or maybe it was a falling out.Perhaps they did something to hurt you, betraying trust and love.
The pain you will suffer is real, whether from their betrayal or just grieving the dissolved friendship.
The important thing to remember is that forgiveness iskey, but it doesnt always mean you should forget.
When I hear forgive and forget, what I really hear is forgive andneglect.
Neglect how that person treated you because by forgetting, you show that their actions were okay.
Do not neglect yourself in the spirit of forgiveness.
The time will come to walk away from people who never take responsibility for hurting you.
They wont apologize because its too difficult to fix their mistake.
Instead, they take advantage of your grace and forgiveness, avoiding the issue altogether.
Relationships and friendships require work, and thats too difficult for certain individuals.
You have the power to move forward in life clearly and positively, choosing people who choose you.
So choose the people with whom you have a balanced relationship of give and take.
The people who put effort and honesty into your friendship, the people who genuinely care about you.
Thank them for the hurt because healing your heart has made you stronger and more aware of human nature.
Thank them for showing their true colors and for the end coming when it did.
Wish them well on their journeys and continue down yours, harboring no resentment.
Knowing that you have forgiven them if needed, but have not forgotten the lessons learned.
For the good and the bad, thank them…then say goodbye.
