Im assuming you want to make him regret leaving you because you want him back.
Or maybe you want him to suffer a little bit, fair enough.
I get where your heads at.
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Missing someone isnt enough of a reason to get back together.
This is a must whether you want him back or you want to get over him.
You must cut offall contact.
Studieshave found that continuing contact with an ex can disrupt emotional recovery.
So you basically cause yourself to be stuck in the same vulnerable, miserable place.
You need time and space to detox from it all.
This will also jackhammer your self-esteem into the ground.
This is not what we want here.
Give him what he wants.
Does he want a breakup?
Great, give it to him!
He broke up with you…OK, now youre not in his life anymore.
Now he can feel what that really means.
He cant experience the pain of your absence unless you areabsent.
Hes not going to expect you to just let it go.
Dont let him be so sure of these convictions!
Dont go where you arent wanted.
You are worth more than that.
And like dont take a stab at stay friends with him, this never ends well!
After a breakup, you shouldnt ask, How can I get him back?
You shouldnt even ask the title of this article: How can I make him regret leaving me?
The question you should be asking is: How can I move on from this?
!But it must be done.
You have to remember you might live without him.
You have to get back in touch with yourself, remember you?
So check in with you- how are you doing?
What is it you need?
Youve spent so long thinking about him and his needs and his feelings… what about you?
Is it possible to get him back?
If not, then history is just going to repeat itself.
A relationship on the decline can deplete you.
Become someone stronger than who that relationship made you.
Find your inner power.
Find your power of choice- do you really choose him?
This may lead you to a toxic on-again off-again relationship.
Be stronger so it’s possible for you to make better choices for yourself.
Dont take him back.
But it will not be different unless something is different!
Change takes time and work and reflection and insight.
You broke up because it was broken, broken things dont magically repair themselves.
Both people need to be committed to fixing whatever broke.
Both people need to work independently on themselves and together as a unit.
So if he comes back… dont be so quick to give in.
Dont run and see him whenever he beckons.
Dont answer his texts in the middle of the night.
This will not make you feel good about yourself, it will only make things worse.
I promise you are not always going to feel the way you do right now.
You will not always miss him so intensely.
You will one day be able to envision a better, brighter future for yourself that doesnt include him.
One day you will look back and realize this was for the best.
One day you will realize that this shaped you in immeasurable ways.
It will all make sense eventually.
