We even had our closure moment… twice.
Within a year, we were back together, only to break apart again a month later.
I have no idea if I ever cross his mind.
Vinh Pham
Maybe hes achieved his closure, but I certainly havent achieved mine.
Ah,closure, aka resolution,denouement, The End.
The first time I heard that word, it was 1994, and a different now-ex boyfriend was talking.
Vinh Pham
It was an unspoken theme of the 2004 filmThe Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind.
So much for closure!
Those events are supposed to bring us closer to the emotional holy grail that is closure.
But as any therapist will tell you for free, love and life are messy.
That begs my question of the day: Is closure an impossible dream?
As I understand its meaning, closure signals an ending.
In romance, youve achieved it when you might officially file a relationship under dead.
We tend to pursue it in some form of communication or communion with the other person involved.
But does the closure that supposedly follows really bring us lasting peace?
Anyone who has ever been dumped by one true love knows you never really get over it.
You still go over and over the minutiae of the relationship in your head.
You still think about the other person a thousand times a day until you dont.
All it takes is one trigger for all of those old emotions to come rushing back to center stage.
Would we be better off if the other person were dead or rather dead?
Would that be a more effective form of closure?
The goal of this reconnection?
You have to bury your dead real good, you know?
So they dont come back to haunt you, the twentysomething gay oracle advises.
Clearly hes not a fan of Patricks method of gaining closure.
David Vickers, a character on the defunct daytime soapOne Life to Liveonce said something similar.
