How would I know?
Chances are, if youre even able to self-reflect on this question, you probablyarenta narcissist.
The effects of projection and trauma.
Victims of any form of emotional abuse are programmed toself-destructand blame themselves for the abuse.
What iftheyare the ones who are narcissists?
We translate our human flaws into reasons for being abused.
We think we have more control over other peoples behavior than we actually do.
Being flawed does not give anyone the right to abuse you.
When weve been traumatized for so long, it takes a toll.
Any sane person would eventually maladaptively react to the chronic violence andtoxic stressa pathological person puts them through.
The fact that youre even feeling guilty or ashamed for reacting to someone mistreating you?
This is evidence of your empathy, a trait that narcissists lack.
This is especially true forchildhood abuse survivorsof narcissistic parents.
Children of narcissists may be sensitive to criticism or be overly reactive due to what they experienced.
Or, survivors of a narcissistic partner might find themselves acting like their narcissistic partner as a defense mechanism.
You might be suffering from what therapists callNarcissistic Victim Syndrome.
They are not symptoms of a full-fledged personality disorder with hardwired behavioral patterns.
They are temporary and they can be addressed.
Do I consider the feelings of others?
Do I make an effort to change my behavior if I think its in any way harmful?
Am I able to look at myself and my behavior honestly?
Like anyone who has ever been traumatized, youve been affected.
