No matter what, do not ever blame them.
Don’t tell them that they are weak.
Don’t tell them to try harder.
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Don’t tell them that they aren’t working fast enough.
Don’t ever blame them for how their brain works.
That’s only going to add fuel to the fire.
It doesnt mean they are insane.
It doesnt mean they need to be locked up.
It doesnt mean that they arent lovable.
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So dont treat them like they are children.
Dont treat them like youre their parent.
Just love them for exactly who they are.
Dont think that theirmental healthis your fault.
You didnt cause them to have depression or anxiety.
You didnt cause the eating disorder or the bipolar disorder.
You didnt cause the manic phases and the depressive phases.
It is not your fault.
Know that it isnt their fault either.
Its not like they woke up one day and asked for this.
Its a chemical imbalance in their brain.
Its not like a broken elbow that can be fixed with a cast and time.
Its anongoing battlethat could potentially last a lifetime.
Realize that you have no idea how they are feeling.
But just, let them know that you are there.
That you are always going to be there when things get tough.
Let them know youll be there through the good and the bad.
Sometimes, thats all they need to hear.
Sometimes, its just the little things that help.
Be patient with them on the days where they are struggling the most.
Just learn how to love them on their terrible days and on their best ones.
No matter what, do not ever blame them.
Dont tell them that they are weak.
Dont tell them to try harder.
Dont tell them that they arent working fast enough.
Dont ever blame them for how their brain works.
Thats only going to add fuel to the fire.
Thats only going to make the feel worse and make them feel like they dont deserve to be loved.
Know that you arent perfect and they arent either.
But if you truly love them, youll treat them as a person and not as a patient.
youll treat them with respect and with dignity.
You arent going to walk on eggshells, but you arent going to stomp all over them.
Be gentle and kind, and they will be gentle and kind back to you.
Know that even though they struggle, you struggle with different things just as well.
Realize that everyone in this world struggles with something and their mental illness just happens to be their struggle.
Encourage them to get help when it becomes too severe and when their symptoms wont let up.
Encourage them to go to therapy.
To go to the doctors and to talk to friends.
You cannot do this on your own.
Let go of the need to control everything and to control their life.
Let go of the need to fix them.
They arent shattered or stupid.
They are simply human.
Just as you are and just as I am.
All we are, are humans beings trying to love and be loved back.
So love them with all that you have.
And in return, they will do the same.
No one in this world is perfect.
We all have our demons and our battles we need to fight.
And we all have to learn to love, despite all of that darkness.
