Understand that this is your chance; this is your shot to be whatever the hell you want.
Each step in my personal journey through this has drastically changed where I thought I was stepping next.
Basically, theres no happy ending here.
Luis Quintero
But theres a few things Ive come to understand, and thats all I need right now.
The happy ending comes later.
The hurt and the pain and the progress and the change are what comes now.
Heres what I know, and heres what I understand.
Understand that you dont really know them like you thought, and you certainly dont know them now.
There are parts of them that you will never know, and that gap will just continue to grow.
Let it give you so much space that you could barely see them on the other side anymore.
Let the foundation of your separation really sink in.
There is life all around you and its happeningdont you want to see?
Understand that you cant tell them how they are feeling.
You cannot put words in their mouth that they are not saying.
And you cant be the person who tells them how they need to feelthats not your job.
It is your job to accept whereyouare.
By all means, feel free to not accept or even ignore what theyre doing.
They arent yours to worry about anymorethey made that choice.
Theres free time to breathe and really get to know who you are and who you want to be.
Theres also time to grieve the loss of something that wasnt what you thought it would be.
Understand that this is your chance; this is your shot to be whatever the hell you want.
Understand one last thing about all of this: you still have choices.
You have the choice to allow yourself to move on.
You have the choice to forgive them, even when theyre not really asking you to.
You have the choice to be a rockstar of a persondont let that chance slip away.
You are electric, you are enchanting, and you are phoenix-ing right now.
At least, you could be.
Let yourself rise right on up out of those ashes and fly the hell away.
you could come back down to the ground when youre ready.
Enjoy the view for now and understand that the way this process moves right now is up toyou.Not them.
Choose you before you choose anyone else right now.
Choose to forgive yourself for all the awful things youre convincing yourself of internally.
Choose to love yourself wholly and fully before even trying it again with anyone else.
Understand that you matter.
Even if you dont feel like you do.
We can do this.
