Love is not just a feeling.
It is a choice, a decision, an action, a movement.
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Updated 7 years ago,May 9, 2018
Love.What the hell is love?
Genessa Panainte
We want, so desperately, to label it.
To box it up.
To put it on a shelf that we can easily pull from when were ready.
To feel comfortable and steady and grounded as we free fall into another person.
But love, Ive learned, isundefinable.
When we think of love we think of butterflies.
Genessa Panainte
When we think of love we think of kisses.
Of fleeting, beautiful moments.
But love isnt just those initial moments.And perhaps its not even those moments at all.
When we look at our relationships, are we in love in the beginning?
Or are we just wrapped up in the attention we have from someone else?
Are we drawn to their souls, or their physical bodies?
Are we in love with their spirits, or the way they make us feel?
For some reason, weve told ourselves that love is beautiful, is easy.
That when we meet the right person, theyll fall into us so gently, so beautifully.
Butreal love is complicated.
Loveisnt simply a feeling.
It isnt simply two hands intertwined, or two bodies coming together in lust.
Love isnt just moments that you remember, spots on a timeline in your life.
Love isnt the person whom you feel the most comfortable around.
Love isnt even finding your home.
Its pushing, day after day, to keep that home feeling over time and through obstacles.
Its conflicting and confusing and a whole lot of change as you both grow, together and separate.
Love is actually challenge.
Its meeting someone who pushes you to be greater, bigger, brighter than you were before.
Its finding someone who you see fighting battles with, and for.
Love is imagining another persons arm around your shoulders as you grow old.
Its seeing parties and weddings and anniversaries with them by your side.
Its family, maybe even children, sprinkled around you.
Its the thought of forever, as hard as that is to actually visualize.
Love is not just a feeling.
It isa choice, a decision, an action, a movement.
A movement towards another, despite what stands in your way.
Despite all the ways the world will tell you to give up or walk away.
Despite all the things that will have a go at break you down, break you apart.
