Marriage is long and difficult, and when boundaries are crossed, it can be disastrous.
A vital part of marriage is trust, and without it, a marriage can break down.
So its very important that, when boundaries have been crossed, it is dealt with right away.
Sandy Millar
I have a client whose husband had violated their no mid-week drinking boundary.
With that mutual understanding, their healing could begin.
I believe that conversation is essential to any healthy relationship.
They agreed that the boundary had been set in place for the sake of their children.
Without conversation, moving forward is impossible.
Did they feel like it was a boundary they should maintain or one that needed reconsideration?
After conversation and resolution, the next step to managing boundaries is bysetting benchmarks.
Benchmarks are a point of reference against which other things are compared.
Setting benchmarks is an important part of moving forward.
For my clients, their benchmark was how effective the no mid-week drinking boundary was.
When boundaries are crossed in marriage, significant strain can result.
Relationships are tested because trust is violated.
If the boundaries are crossed over and over, things can really turn bad.
When boundaries are crossed in marriage, significant damage can occur.
