A relationship takes 200% effort.
If youre not putting in 100%, it wouldnt be fair to expect that from others.
However, there are things you might do to help you and your guy cope.
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If so, its no coincidence.
Example: Maggie
Maggie first came to me asking for dating sites that worked well for women like her.
Knowing that picking the right dating site wasnt the problem, I probed further.
Maggie wasnt having much luck with online dating apps.
When she showed me her online dating profile I found she had one profile picture and no description.
She told me that when men texted her, she rarely replied saying it took too much effort.
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In short, Maggie wasnt putting any effort into how she was showing up at all.
There are so many stories of self-sabotage like this, I could write a whole novel on it!
A relationship takes 200% effort.
If youre not putting in 100%, it wouldnt be fair to expect that from others.
Look into your own relationship story to understand if youre standing in your own way.
Take a step back
Men and women have completely different commitment timelines.
From what Ive witnessed, it takes men longer to decide hes ready to commit to a woman.
For them, getting into a relationship is a long term investment in his future.
She expressed her interest in him and let things take its natural course.
Note: I place emphasis on the fact that the friendship never changed while the two were hanging out.
Understand his commitment story
As I mentioned before, most men arent afraid of commitment.
I once worked with a guy whose parent split when he was in his teens.
His dad left the country leaving him to be the man of the house at a very early stage.
This experience shaped the way he viewed relationships as something that only caused heartbreak and emotional burden.
His relationships never lasted more than 2 years.
Many go in and out of relationships not realizing that our partners have relationship stories of their own.
Just because a guy isnt ready to commit now it doesnt mean he will never be ready.
