Hindsight is 20/20 and retroactive gaydar is MUCH more accurate than regular gaydar.
Does that make sense?
Personally, I didnt know I was any tidbit of queer until a queer moment presented itself to me.
Nesrin Danan
But there are times that should have given me a hint.
Like the time I asked for a tool belt for Christmas in fourth grade.
And then received that tool belt and helped my dad build a shed in our backyard.
Or that time I played softball for 13 years.
Hindsight is 20/20 and retroactive gaydar is MUCH more accurate than regular gaydar.
1.Youre not practicing when you make out with your friends, youre just gay.
Emma W., 24
2.You dont have to do that with him.
Yeah, you have a giant crush on her.
You have absolutely no idea that lesbians come in all shapes, sizes, and presentations.
Youre going to fall in love FOR REAL and experience what a healthy, happy relationship should feel like.
Kelly C., 23
4.Love whoever tf you want!
Your people will love and support you no matter what.
Anonymous, 25
5.Love is so much bigger than you think it is.
Its not what your parents have, or what your friends have, or what you see in movies.
Its not what youve experienced so farall that doubt and insecurity.
Its so much more than all that and its yours to invent.
Abby C., 20
6.Dont worry so much about defining who you are.
Live authentically and rest will fall into place!
Dom P., 26
8.Do you even like boys?
Youre scared of other females for a reason.
Mariah O., 26
9.Your friends dont actually feel the same way about girls that you do.
Its more than just wanting to be friends.
Anonymous, 22
10.Take your time, but theres room for all of you.
Your queerness is not contingent upon whether other people know about it.
Its about you and how you experience yourself.
You planted a seed and cared for it and watched it grow.
There is so much joy to come for you with living queerly and openly.
Being Black and queer and femme is so beautiful.
Dom O., 26
11.You think you have it good right now.
And youre not wrong!
But if you think youre happy now?
If you think you have it good right now, just wait.
If you think youre growing right now?
Oh sweet baby angel, just wait.
Your world is going to change in some of the best, most indescribable ways.
You are allowed to choose a different choice.
You are allowed to be someone new.
You are allowed to not only want things to go from good to spectacular, but honestly?
You also absolutely deserve it.
Anonymous, 23
13.You dont like him for a reason, you moron!
Lea M., 24
14.Its okay to not know everything about yourself.
Dont be afraid to experience life and everything in it!
Its gonna take some time to process all the waves of emotions you are feeling.
But soon youll realize how beautiful they are, and they will sculpt you into who you are.
They couldnt be prouder of you.
Dalia L., 27
15.To actually accept who I am.
And to come out sooner instead of hiding.
I became so much happier once I was comfortable with myself.
Erica S., 25
16.Stop worrying about what other people may think about you.
Always be open and honest with yourself.
It feels definite and final, and that seems pretty scary.
Coming out feels like the closing of one chapter and the beginning of another.
Your people will love you even more.
Leaving behind your straight life will be challenging.
Sorry to tell you that heartbreak still exists in the gay world, but thats okay.
And at 26, youll marry the woman who makes your world stop.
Your world post-coming out will be full of love, new relationships, and self-acceptance.
Take the leap and dont look back.
Avery S., 27
20.Stop trying to fight it… men are just meant to be your friend.
But women…women are meant to be all types of things.
And also, get ready to be a lot hornier a lot more often.
Kate T., 28
22.Its okay.
Your journey is going to take time but youll come out when youre ready and 29.
But that when you do its going to be the best decision youve ever made.
And youll make the best friends.
Lauren G., 31
23.You didnt need to procrastinate being yourself.
Everyone who is important to you will remain and those who dont, dont matter.
And the right person will come along and only enhance that.
Morwenna L., 25
24.There is nothing wrong with you.
You are okay and you will figure this all out.
Its scary now and might be scary in the future, but you will get through it.
You will have a beautiful, amazing, and wonderfully queer life.
Keep hanging in there, because it really does get better.
A.S., 25
25.Yes, your feelings are valid.
Being bi doesnt make you any less of a part of the LGBTQ community.
Your friends and family will continue to love and support you.
The box youre trying so hard to fit into doesnt serve you.
Outgrowing the box will be the best thing youve ever done for yourself and your well-being.
Theres nothing to be afraid of.Kelsey G., 26
26.It gets easier.
You dont have to have it all figured out right now or even next year.
Ayana B., 26
27.Loving a woman is a lot harder than you think it will be.
But it is worth it.
Its the best feeling you could ever imagine.
Brianna Y., 25
28.Its okay to take time to figure out who you are.
I would tell her to relax and just create experiences and memories without trying to define them as much.
Alex W., 21
29.I would tell myself to keep going and accept myself.
Life is much better once you let go of those that dont approve and carry on.
Just realizing that high school would end and I could be me would have been helpful.
Gordanna C., 29
30.Your friends are not going to think you have crushes on them all, relax!
!Cassidy L., 23
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