This is usually when I receive the desperate messages from women wanting to know what is going on.
They dont get it.
He seems interested … but then he disappears or says he doesnt want a relationship or just acts shady.
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But then he comes back and hes sweet and attentive and now youre just confused.
Does he like me or not?
I get the desperate need to know.
Ill clear up some of the confusion right now.When a guy likes you, its obvious.
He likes you, just not enough.
The problem is so many of us get caught in this trap of trying to figure out why.
Hell tell you something else.
Why wont he just break up with you?
He just doesnt like you enough to want to bewith you.
Maybe he has valid reasons.
If thats how he feels, nothing you say or do will change it.
His issues are his problems.
You pave the way for a lot of unnecessary
hurt when you make them your problem.
Trust me, I know how hard it is to extricate yourself from this kind of situation.
Youve invested so much time and energy into the situation and you refuse to accept things as they are.
I know it feels personal, but its not.
You feel unlovable and unworthy and worry that youll end up alone, or be forced to settle.
These kinds of situations tend to bring out the drama queen in all of us.
The right guy for you is a guy whowantsto be with you.
Hes a guy who shows you, clearly and obviously, that he likes you.
He doesnt drop clues for you to uncover.
Its not like a breakup where you got to experience the relationship and its demise.
In this case, you never even got to base camp 1.
Theres no way around it.
But you cant force a guy to feel a certain way about you.
All you might do is be your best self, thats pretty much it.
Ask yourself what thoughts/behaviors led you into this relationship.
What did you bring to the relationship that was good and that you could use in your next relationship?
What did you bring that was negative, and blinded you from seeing what was in front of you?
What is something you accepted in this relationship that you will never accept again?
Sit with these questions and see where they take you.
Maybe you meditate on them, maybe you journal and see what spills out of you.
