I would have loved to have gone out with you.
Any guy would be lucky to have you, he said.
We had been texting back and forth for weeks, but we never solidified plans to actually meet up.
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Week after week we would discuss the newest episode of our favorite television show.
And week after week his responses became more sporadic and laconic.
I was suddenly waiting around for him to text me for five days.
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When he finally texted me, it was if nothing had happened.
He didnt apologize for disappearing either, he just popped up when it was convenient for him.
Its just aload of crap.
I explained to him.
Do you want to know what its really like dating as a Millennial?
Its ghosting, bread-crumbing, and any other word that doesnt seem like it would apply to dating.
Its first dates that dont lead to second dates.
Its texting conversations that never even lead to dates.
Its unanswered messages, social media requests, and poor communication.
I cant wait to talk to you tomorrow and get to know you better.
He said to me as we texted each other late at night.
The majority of the guys state that they use dating apps because theydont know what they want.
They talk to girls for two minutes and quickly lose interest.
They arent looking for anything serious.
Theyre just on the app because their friends are on it too.
And yet, I know so many people who are happily in relationships.
Its quite mind boggling.
One of my coworkers inquired as to why I wasnt in a long-term relationship and I was truly speechless.
Its a complex answer as to why I am single, and yet its also really simple.
Im single because I havent met the right guy yet.
It had been weeks andthis guyhad not tried to get to know me better at all.
He stopped asking about my day, or work, or what I was up to that night.
He never got to know me because he never gave me a chance.
Dating apps arent helping the situation.
In fact, they leave me feeling more isolated.
Its not actually dating.
Its texting, messaging, snapchating, and every other use of social media.
Youre truly lucky if you ever meet up with someone from Tinder, Bumble, or Jswipe.
The best part of dating apps is finding the same guy on multiple apps.
And you both match on each app.
Hes clearly in the market and is looking for something, but it might not be you.
I finally addressed our situation.
I held onto the belief that we would meet by the end of the summer.
By that time, though, I would be packing up to leave for school.
A relationship is tough to start when youre over 300 miles away from someone you barely know.
I havent been the best communicator…, he said.
Its probably because theres another girl who is better at holding his attention.
He might have a stronger connection to her.
They may have been going on dates, while you sat around waiting for his text.
It could also be due to the fact that he isnt looking for anything serious right now.
He was just on the app for fun and wanted to see who he would match with.
This just isnt working out for me, its clear we want two different things.
I wanted something serious.
I wanted an actual relationship with a guy.
Not texting phone tag every few days.
There was nothing left to say.
If I was such a great girl, then why didnt he try harder to get to know me?
Why didnt he find alternate ways to see me?
Why didnt he actually value who I was?
He isnt theright guyfor me.
Its as complex and simple as it comes.
