Toxic people are very good at manipulating you.
They may say one kind thing or act in a way but then its immediately followed by mistreatment.
Toxic relationships have one thing in common, the love for one person and one person only.
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They revolve around the giving and taking and seeing how if affects the other person.
Its completely self-destructive and you dont even see it.
But everyone else around you does.
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Its the coming and going.
Its making your head spin every which way.
Its the inconsistency of treating you well one moment then like shit the next.
Spoiling you only to ignore you.
Making these elaborate plans only to cancel.
Because if you arent with them, theyll verify you dont have a good night.
Anyone who has a pattern of dating people like this get obsessed with all of this.
Pulling you in just to push you away.
Its kind of like a high in a way.
They pull away you try harder.
You pull away they lure you back in with coy words and actions that never come through.
With toxic relationships, its all about power and who has it.
But then it ends.
Suddenly you feel like youre falling apart.
And everyone says youre better off without this person but you dont even see it that way.
All you feel is this pain and missing them in the good moments you forget about the bad.
How easily you forget the times they canceled.
The plans that fell through.
The times they didnt show up.
The times they ignored you.
With someone who is toxic, you channel your brain into only thinking about the good times.
Your emotional connection to them makes you see the relationship through rose colored lenses.
But your friends on the only hand, hold to all the bad moments and they dont forget it.
Toxic people are very good at manipulating you.
They may say one kind thing or act in a way but then its immediately followed by mistreatment.
The first actions justify their second but all youre thinking is, what the fuck.
And thats exactly what they want you thinking.
The thing about toxic people is they are never sure of anything.
They can never give you a solid answer.
They constantly keep you guessing and wondering and trying too hard.
to make it ever fully be clean of them, you have to rid yourself of them entirely.
And I know it hurts.
I know you miss them.
I know you dont think youll meet someone who will give you such adrenaline rush in a relationship.
But what you dont realize yet is healthy relationships arent supposed to be like that.
Healthy relationships arent about giving and taking.
It isnt about someone caring more.
Even if it feels like youve lost yourself to this relationship.
Because love isnt toxic.
Someone hurting you isnt right.
Someone using you to fill voids in their own lives will never make them whole.
And it isnt your job to make them whole at the cost of breaking yourself to get them there.
