Your person isn’t supposed to save you.
They’re supposed to support you.
Dont turn them into a punching bag because you arent sure how else to deal with your pain.
Analise Benevides
Dont treat them like the bad guy when they havent done anything wrong.
When youre upset with yourself, dont take it out on your partner.
Dont turn every situation around to pin the blame on them.
Despite what some people will tell you, your person is not responsible for your happiness.
They can only do so much.
The rest is up to you.
If youre unhappy with your career or your friendships or yourself, its up to you to make changes.
Its up to you to fix the problem areas in your life.
Your person isnt supposed to save you.
Theyre supposed to support you.
Theyre supposed to encourage you to make changes that will lead to your happiness.
Theyre supposed to be your reminder you’re free to accomplish great things.
You have to work for it.
You have to remind yourselfyouare in control of your future.
you might get what you want as long as you try, as long as you hold yourself accountable.
You cant blame your person for every single problem in your life.
You cant resent them over things that arent even their fault.
Besides, theres no point in placing blame.
Its better to fix whatever is bothering you instead of dwelling on whatever is bothering you.
If you feel like youve drifted from your friends since your relationship started, start texting them again.
Invite them out for dinner.
Have a spa night.
Or make new friends.
Put yourself out there.
Create a new group you might trust.
Work on your long lost projects again.
Put effort into your passions again.
If you feel like youve lost your independence since your relationship started, carve out more alone time.
Get to know yourself better.
The relationship might be strong and healthy.Otherareas of your world might need work.
You have to ask yourself whether they are really the problem or whether there are deeper issues involved.
When youre upset with yourself, dont take it out on your partner.
Dont push them away.
Dont sabotage one of the greatest things in your life because youre upset about something else in your life.
