Sometimes its easy to know when weve outgrown our relationship.
We can easily point out where the cracks started forming and how we stayed long past the warning signs.
What about when the love youre in is good, though?
Tessa Wilson
When its not a love that goes out of its way to hurt you.
No two relationships are the same.
Whats suitable for one isnt always good for the next.
Yet, it helps when we really sit with the idea of what a good relationship means to ourselves.
Is a good love simply one that doesnt abuse?
One that doesnt cut you with its words, doesnt harass you or hit you?
Is a good love one that is better than your previous relationships?
One that treats you differently than your past?
Is a good love one that feels safe and secure?
One that you know will provide for you no matter what?
One that may not have romance or passion, but it has stability?
These are good qualities to have, and its okay to want steadiness in a relationship.
What if your relationship has all of these qualities and youre still feeling uncertain?
The truth is, sometimes we outgrow good loves.
Ones that we once thought would solve all our problems, and they did for a while.
They helped us see new sides of ourselves.
They helped us move into a better version of who we are now.
We outgrow good loves because we want a great love.
It doesnt mean we stop growing.
We can attempt to fit ourselves inside the structures.
That we are growing, and we have to do so without them.
Not because we no longer love them.
Part of us always will.
Listen to it and figure out what its trying to tell you.
It can be difficult because you wonder if youre making a mistake.
What if they can grow with you?
What if you leave them behind and you never find love again?
What if you start becoming this new person and decide it wasnt the right time for this journey?
The questions can drive you insane because there is no fool-proof way to determine the truth.
That youre really just terrified to take a risk, afraid you will fail?
It doesnt make you horrible.
It doesnt make you broken and cruel.
It makes you a human being who knows its time to go, even if its hard.
Because once you reach the other side of this, you will realize it was for the best.
You will be so wildly, unbelievably grateful you didnt.
