We may never know whose tormentor we are.
Even if it comes as a shock to you, recognize how the other person feels.
Dont erase those feelings in the process of trying to defend your own.
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Acknowledge their feelings as well as yours, even if they may clash.
Apologize, but accept you may never receive forgiveness.
Reflect on yourself and dont villainize the other person.
Learning about issues you were unaware of or hearing judgements about your character can be upsetting.
Take some time and make objective observations.
Remember, you are not a bad person.
We are all still growing.
Open up about your feelings.
This can be a lot to process.
Find a friend or a loved one to talk it out with.
Accept that you did your best with the knowledge you had at the time and forgive yourself.
You made decisions that came out of the circumstances you were in at that time of your life.
It will always feel like you could have done something better, but forgive yourself for mistakes youve made.
You may never achieve total reconciliation with the person you hurt as much as you want to.
