No one realizes that you will still develop trust issues because of the divorce.
They don’t realize that your own relationships are going to suffer because of the divorce.
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Updated 7 years ago,December 28, 2017
Everyone assumes thatdivorceis only hard on little kids.
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They have to swing back and forth between households.
They have to split the holidays.
They have to grow up with two separate families.
They have to learn aboutfalling out of loveat such an early age.
You dont have a support system.
Instead, you are yourparents support system.
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You are there to calm them down when they burst into tears.
You are there to listen to their rants.
You are there to remind them that they are valuable and they are beautiful and they will love again.
When youre a kid, your parents try hard to help you through the divorce.
But when youre an adult, your parents expectyouto helpthemget through the divorce.
Youre an adult now, so they dont hide anything from you.
Your mother complains about your father.
Your father complains about your mother.
You get caught in the middle.
You have to choose what you tell them and what you hide.
You have to protect their feelings when youre having trouble processing your own feelings.
When youre a kid, your parents might shield you from the details.
About all of the little things that led to their separation.
But you are an adult now, so you get to hear every disturbing detail about their relationship.
Maybe you will be forced to pick a side.
Or maybe they will actually have a civildivorceand youll manage to keep them both in your life.
Either way, when youre an adult and your parents get divorced, you feel like you are alone.
You are supposed to be realistic, understanding.
When youre an adult, your parents dont think that they are hurting you with thedivorce.
No one realizes that you will still develop trust issues because of the divorce.
They dont realize that your own relationships are going to suffer because of the divorce.
They dont realize that you are going to start questioning whether you should get married yourself.
