Instead, it is important to do things that make you feel good.
Those days when you are full of despair and feeling hopeless?
Those days where it feels like you just want to crawl into bed and never get out?
Nik Shuliahin
Are you having one of those days today?
Let me help you manage the depression and loneliness.
It just takes some awareness and action.
There are two kinds of depression:situational and chemical.
They have similar symptoms but different causes.
Knowing what kind of depression you have is the first step to dealing with it.
Situational depression is triggered by something that happens in your life.
Chemical depression is the result of your brain chemistry being off in such a way that leads to depression.
You are most often born with chemical depression but it can also be sparked by a traumatic life event.
Chemical depression can happen to you even if your life is going great.
If you think you have situational depression, read on.
Do things that make you feel good.
If youre feeling depressed all of the time, our inclination is to collapse into our life.
Instead, it is important to do things that make you feel good.
For me, I keep a list of things to do when I am feeling depressed.
First off: Take a long walk (the endorphins are great for my depression).
Go to the movies.
When I am depressed, I do one or all of those things and my depression is often lifted.
So, what makes you happy?
Unfortunately, when youre feeling depressed and lonely, our worst enemy is that brain of ours.
You have no friends.
You arent good at anything.
You will never find love.
You suck at your job.
And on and on.
And chances are none of those things are true.
But your brain, when you are depressed, just doesnt go there.
Meditation is also an option, but I just get more depressed when I try and fail to meditate.
If you might do it, go for it!
Figure it out and do it!
Go for a walk.
If its at all possible, take some time to go for a walk.
The thing about walking is that it kills two birds with one stone, or rather three!
Walking encourages deep breathing, which calms you down quickly.
Also, for some reason, the motion of walking encourages clearer thinking.
So, get outside and get your heart rate up.
Its a great way to manage feeling depressed and lonely.
Sharing your depression and loneliness with another person is a key part of dealing with it.
They say that what is kept inside the head is four times more intense than what is spoken.
Also, if you share your depression, you might learn something that will help you manage it.
We all have things that work for us, and sharing them with others can be very helpful.
From there, your thoughts have a reduced power and are easier to deal with.
Or write letters to yourself?
Or scribble notes on post-its?
If you do, great!
If you dont, it could be time to start.
Much like speaking, writing allows you to get your sadness out of your head and onto paper.
If the prospect of hanging with a group of friends is daunting, choose one friend.
Perhaps the one who knows you best and can accept where you are right now emotionally.
A friend who will put no pressure on you to get over it or suck it up.
A friend who will laugh with you and be silly but who wont take a stab at fix you.
So pick up that phone right now and reach out to that person.
Make a date and do it!
I promise you that that time spent will help you when you are feeling depressed and lonely.
Talk to your doctor.
Remember, your doctor wont judge.
Depression can go away on its own if properly managed but will get worse if left untreated.
So, try the things that I recommended above but always pay attention to how you are doing.
If you are getting worse and not better, get help!
you might do it!
