yo dont feel silly with yourself for caring.
Almost relationships can hurt just as much as real relationships because connection isnt measured in time.
When your heart connects with someone, it connects with someone.
Paolo Raeli
Sometimes, that depth is fostered over years.
c’mon dont feel silly with yourself for caring.
Almost relationships can hurt just as much as real relationships because connection isnt measured in time.
When your heart connects with someone, it connects with someone.
Sometimes, that depth is fostered over years.
There are no rules.
The reality of the situation is that you met someone who made you feel deeply.
You met someone who reciprocated what was happening within you.
You fostered a connection that wanted to go deeper.
It hurts to think that someone likes you, but not enough.
It hurts to think that someone enjoys spending time with you, but not enough.
It hurts to think that someone cares for you, but not enough.
That would have made them choose you.
But thats not the case.
Because at the end of the day, this person wasnt ready to be in a committed relationship.
This person wasnt ready to take that leap.
And that is where they are at.
Nothing will change that.
Relationships take a lot of responsibility.
Is this something you’re able to handle?
Is this something you actually want?
Hint: it never is.
We just convince ourselves it is because we feel deeply.
And how you feel.
If someone tells you that they cannot commit to you, you have to walk away.
If someone plays games with you and your dynamic is hurting you, you have to walk away.
Because when you settle for almost, you settle for almosts in every single aspect of a relationship.
The connection holds weight, but its still in a way surface.
And nothing is more disappointing that letting yourself down.
And that adds another level to the healing process.
You found someone in life you really liked.
You spent time with them and laughed with them and dreamed with them and made memories with them.
You cared for them, and dove into their soul.
You had inside jokes with them and learned about them, and your heart grew fond of them.
Give yourself permission to forgive yourself for seeing the goodness in another human being.
Give yourself permission to forgive yourself for putting your heart out there.
almost relationships cut deeply because they tend to make a human heart live within that what if phase.
And that is so human.
It is human to get excited about another person.
It can be difficult to lay down, because it still feels so promising.
Sometimes, what could have been hurts more.
But you have to remind yourself of what was.
At the end of the day, you fell into a dynamic that ended up hurting you.
That potential isnt being valued.
That potential isnt being shown up for.
Some chapters of our lives are full and dizzying in the best way with concrete endings and concrete closure.
What we dont often realize is that that is closure, too.
Because its still an ending.
Remember that you want to be loved and chosen, not almost loved or almost chosen.
If someone cant do that, you truly are better off.
This is not your person.
Because the right person will be consistent.
The right person will put forth the appropriate amount of effort.
The right person will make everything feel easy, natural.
Youre trying to convince someone that youre worthy of being chosen.
But the right person will choose you.
The right person will stay.
Remind yourself that you deserve for the beauty you see with someone to come to fruition.
You deserve someone who is on the same page.
Someone who wants the same things, someone who want to meet all of your hope with action.
Someone who asserts their heart and stands up for it.
Someone who isnt afraid of being responsible for your heart.
Someone who embraces it.
