It takes time to heal, and sometimes you oughta go on that healing journey with intention.
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Updated 1 year ago,April 18, 2024
Healing is not a one-time event.
You start to take inventory of your life.
Ben Mack
The pieces, when put together, form a picture that should nullify that feeling.
You go through life stymied by that ache.
It crescendos and crashes.
Slowly, it wears you down.
Its harder to get up.
Its harder to go out.
Its easier to drink and then drink some more.
Or maybe eat, or shop, or post photos of yourself to Instagram.
Everyone has a different vice.
You start to attach thoughts to the feeling, fear stories.
The stories, you realize, are illogical.
What you cant see right now is that nothing is really wrong.
Those dull, unsettling feelings are not in the futuretheyre in the past.
Youve been carrying them with you all this time.
Sometimes, they hold within them nourishment, wisdom and guidance.
Other times, theyre debris from a chapter long closed.
Either way, they are signals to the spaces in which we are not yet free.
Have them show you their origins.
You will begin to see moments you forgot about, feelings you forgot you ever felt.
The past will come up in blinks and vignettes.
When you are ready, you will step behind it.
You will need to cry.
You will need to mourn what you lost and when you lost it.
Though you cannot change time, you are, somehow, changing your story.
You will need to sweat.
You will need to shake.
You will need to lay on the floor and literally shake out everything youre holding.
You will need to surrender.
Through the tears and sweat and shaking and shifting, you will stop fighting it.
Eventually, you will get up, and your world will start tochange.
You will exit relationships and begin others.
You will call someone you havent talked to in a long time.
You will suddenly be inspired to attend a new class, or find yourself drafting your resignation email.
You will sleep a bit easier.
Gradually, you will start to return to yourself.
Then you will know that when you lose someone, you must cry.
When youre frustrated, you must be frustrated.
When you want to say something, you must speak.
In the healing process, you dont just learn how to go back and fix what you didnt finish.
The more you do this, the more you will awaken and begin to show up for life.
You start speaking again, you start feeling again, you start being again.
When you feel strong enough to look at whats wrong, you begin to unearth your soul.
It was always there.
You were never lost.
You were only hidden.
It was only the core of you saying: Keep going.There is more to life than this.
This is an extract fromWhen Youre Ready, This Is How YouHealbyBrianna Wiest, published by Thought Catalog Books.
you’ve got the option to buy the book directly from the publisherhere.
