So what exactly seems to be the problem??
Which seems crazy because were more self-aware than ever, more educated, and more successful overall.
Not to mention we have pretty much unlimited access to each other through the power of social media.
Wiktor Karkocha
So what exactly seems to be the problem??
Well, the answer is the talking stage.
The talking stage can last anywhere for a week to several months.
But the more I thought about it, the more I thought how stupid this whole thing has become.
Shes like talking, whats that?
Because thats how silly it sounds.
Technically we talk to everyone.
Seriously, who made this term up?!
Back in the day dating was pretty simple.
A guy sees a girl he finds attractive and he approaches her.
He introduces himself, they talk for a bit and if things go well he asks for her number.
After a day or two, he calls her and they schedule to meet for a date.
He asks her to be his girlfriend and if she says yes then theyre in a relationship.
This whole process can also go vice versa because Im all for women taking the lead too.
But the idea is that the whole process was pretty simple.
Because thats what dating should be.
On your dates, you’re able to get to know each other.
See if you connect beyond physical attraction and ask real questions.
And these dates dont have to always be at lavish five-star restaurants.
It can be as simple as eating ice cream in the park.
The point of a date is spending time with a person you like.
I dont think well ever know the struggle of getting a persons number without having a cell phone.
Or what if they lost it on the way home??
Theyll probably wont ever see each other again.
There was no way they couldve recorded the number.
They also didnt have social media to go find the person to ask again.
Nowadays we have more access to each other than ever before.
We have Instagram, Twitter, and Tinder.
We can have a date within seconds without even leaving the house.
So whats the point of just spending time with just one person?
If it doesnt work out then we can just slide into the DMs of someone else.
Because this generation (myself included) is severely allergic to hard work.
And real long-lasting relationships require work.
it’s possible for you to get to know someone while youre dating them.
It doesnt take long for you to realize if you want to pursue a deeper relationship or not.
This talking stage foolishness is a way to get all the benefits of a relationship without real work.
There should be no reason youve been talking to someone for months with no real progress.
I need to really see if I want to be with them.
Is usually the response.
WHAT DOES THAT EVEN MEAN???
Dating is not a Netflix subscription!
Any person who likes to play games with you is not serious about you.
If they cant take you on a simple date, leave them alone.
The talking stage is just the gateway to a situationship and nobody has time for that.
Call me old fashioned but I am a firm believer in titles.
Titles create a mutual understanding for both parties of what the relationship is.
When there is a lack of clarity, thats when drama and confusion come in.
And drama and confusion is all the talking stages seems to consists of.
At the end of the day, the talking stage is just that, talking.
Youre getting all your feelings involved in something that is never going to go anywhere.
Stop wasting your time entertaining this ridiculousness!!!
Can we hey just bring back going out on dates?
This whole talking stage honestly just makes things way more complicated than it needs to be.
If theyre not and just wants to waste time talking for months, then theyre not worth your time.
If you have no intention of being with someone then c’mon tell them!!!
Stop giving them the you just want to take things slow BS cause were aint buying it!!
If youre not ready to be in a relationship then dont entertain one, PERIOD.
