Why do exes always come back, especially when you’re finally healing from the pain they brought you?
It could boil down to a few different things.
Maybe they genuinely miss you and want to get back together with you.
Sharon McCutcheon
Maybe their heart is broken from another relationship and theyre using you as a rebound.
Maybe theyre manipulative and want to keep you interested even though theyre never going to treat you right.
Keep your guard up until youre sure they have the right intentions.
You dont want to give them permission to break your heart all over again.
you gotta remember to hold out for someone who deserves you.
Even if youcouldget back together, that doesnt mean youshould.
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Sometimes, the no contact rule is the best rule.
Remember, you broke up for a reason.
Even if time has passed, that doesnt mean things have changed.
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If you get back together, they could end up hurting you in the same ways.
History could repeat itself.
Thats why you should probably be careful.
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Listen to your heart, but dont ignore what your head is telling you.
Or what your gut is warning you.
Watching you move on with other guys or other girls might not have been easy for them.
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They might have come back into your life to cause chaos.
They might be trying to ruin your new relationship so that youre alone, just like they are.
That way, they canwinthe breakup.
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They need emotional support during a tough time in their life.
They might be going through a hard time with their love life, career, or family.
Theyre searching for comfort, and they dont care if they hurt you in the process.
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Theyre only thinking about themselves.
They realize how good they had it with you.
Their rebound relationship might have sucked.
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Or as good in bed.
Once they tried dating someone else, they realized that they made a horrible mistake.
They shouldnt have needed to break your heart so you can realize your worth.
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Theyve been thinking about the good memories you shared.
Maybe they came across old photographs or text messages that reminded them of you.
Maybe they heardyoursong on the radio or saw a rerun of a show that you used to watch together.
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Remember, your ex is only human.
Sometimes, youre going to pop into their head, even if theyre completely over you.
Theyre allowed to miss the people from their past, just like you are.
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This doesnt mean they want to get back together or reopen old wounds.
It might just mean that you played an important role in their life.
If you were friends once upon a time, they might genuinely miss having you in their world.
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A new relationship would take too much work.
Its extremely difficult to find love in the modern world.
Thats why an old relationship might look more appealing than a new relationship.
It might feel easier to run back to someone like you who already knows their strengths and weaknesses.
That way, they dont have to start fresh.
They dont have to get back into the dating game and swipe through dating apps.
They can pick up where they left off with you and skip the getting-to-know-you stage.
They want an ego boost.
Your ex-boyfriends and ex-girlfriends might miss the way you made them feel.
They might want to see if they still have what it takes to make you swoon.
Although this might sound like a good sign, it doesnt necessarily mean theyre interested in dating you again.
They might be more interested in an ego boost than an actual relationship.
The more you compliment them, the better theyll feel about their chances out in the dating world.
Youll help them feel like a catch again.
They want to sleep with you.
If your ex comes crawling back, ask them about their intentions.
They might not want to rekindle a relationship with you.
They might be looking for a casual hookup, an excuse to see your naked body again.
Their most recent relationship ended.
They might be using you as a rebound after a breakup or a heated argument with their new partner.
People do crazy things when their hearts are broken.
You have history, so they feel comfortable coming to you.
Or comfortable hurting you.
But you dont have to put up with their treatment.
Make it clear that you arent their second choice or backup plan.
Theyve been thirsting over your pictures.
Sometimes, its best to delete your exes from social media.
When youre still connected over the internet, its hard to forget about each other.
Its difficult to move on.
Your ex might have been kicking themselves over how gorgeous you look in the picture youve been posting lately.
Their sexual attraction to you might be overpowering their common sense.
Theyre drunk and arent thinking clearly.
You dont want to read too deeply into drunken texts.
They wouldnt send you messages littered with typos about how much they miss you.
Theyre perfectly capable of talking again in the morning.
They arent over you yet.
They might be having trouble moving on without you, especially if you were their best friend.
Theyre having as difficult of a time as you are moving forward.
They didnt get enough closure.
Maybe theyre still searching for answers.
They dont understand what caused the breakup and need a better explanation.
Theyre trying to figure out where they went wrong.
Maybe they even want to fix the issue and make it up to you.
They dont want to part ways hating each other.
Theyre trying to set things right.
However, you dont owe them anything.
If seeing them again is going to hurt you, cut ties completely.
Theyll move on eventually, with or without closure.
Things are genuinely different now and they want to retry.
Maybe your ex had a good reason for leaving.
Maybe they moved across the country and didnt want to try a long-distance relationship.
Or maybe they were in a bad place in their life and couldnt focus enough attention on you.
Either way, maybe their feelings for you were genuine.
Thats just the way it is, so ensure you think through your decision carefully.
Dont jump back into a relationship with them the second they come crawling back.
Ask yourself whether this would be good for you.
Talk to them about what getting back together would mean.
check that youre doing whats best for yourself, even if it might hurt in the short term.
