Why do I hate myself?
Everyone wonders whether they are good enough.
If you hate yourself, you are not alone.
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Your thoughts are more common than you think.
Why Do I Hate Myself?
Your past might be the reason why you hate yourself.
Your darkest memories might make you worried about history repeating itself.
You might also be surrounding yourself with toxic people, people who make you feel lost and insecure.
You might hate yourself because you feel lonely and isolated, like an outsider.
Because you have trouble making conversation with other people.
Because you are worried you are never going to have any friends and are going to die alone.
You might hate yourself because you are an overthinker.
You might be activelysearchingfor reasons to hate yourself because you are not comfortable loving yourself.
You are your own worst enemy.
You would never talk down to someone else the way you speak to yourself.
Why Is Hating Myself Dangerous?
When you hate yourself, you settle for less than you deserve.
When you hate yourself, you are more likely to punish yourself.
You might do that by smoking or drinking or harming yourself.
Either way, it is a dangerous road to go down.
You could end up with an addiction or with a close brush with death.
When you hate yourself, you accidentally hurt other people.
You stop answering texts.
You stop agreeing to attend parties and dinners with friends.
When you hate yourself, you have trouble accepting love and accepting compliments.
You push others away on accident because you are worried about getting hurt again.
You jump to the worst case scenario.
You assume people are talking about you behind your back.
You assume people want nothing to do with you.
You assume you are completely alone, even when you are not.
How Can I Stop Hating Myself?
Speaking positively to yourself and about yourself is the first step toward loving yourself.
Practice saying mantras into the mirror like, I am smart.
I am good enough.
It might also be helpful for you to create a list of all of your positive traits.
Write down everything you like about your looks and about your personality.
They have their own insecurities.
They just keep them hidden.
They might be suffering as much as you are, but you would never know the difference.
Another important rule is to only surround yourself with positive influences.
Cut the toxicity out of your world.
If you want to stop hating yourself, then you have to push yourself out of your comfort zone.
You have to talk to new people to prove to yourself youcanmake friends.
You have to go on dates to prove youareworthy of love.
You have to apply for your dream job to prove youdohave what it takes.
Talk to them about how you have been feeling.
See what advice they have to give.
There is nothing wrong about asking for help.
