Letting go of it will not be the end.
Why do we struggle so much to accept that our relationship is over and to just move on?
A few years back I was in a relationship with a man who didnt love me anymore.
Muhammed Kara
Looking back, I have wondered why this was so.
Why couldnt I just let go?
I think I have figured it out and want to share with you what I have learned.
We believe that we are soulmates.
Do you believe that the relationship that you share with your man is like none other?
That you are soulmates?
Let me tell you, EVERYONE feels that way about their relationship.
Letting go of it will not be the end.
The kind of connection you long for.
We get stuck in the past.
When you first met and things were wonderful?
I wish we could just go back to the way we were in the beginning.
I hear it all the time.
But there is never any going back.
Even healthy relationships arent the same as they were in the beginning.
They just cant be.
We are frightened of being alone.
It is the human condition to want to be in a pair.
To have someone to share ones life and experiences with.
That is the goal.
The prospect of putting ourselves out there again so that we can find that person is overwhelmingly daunting.
So we hold onto the one we have now, no matter how bad they are for us.
We have low self-esteem.
We feel like if we are worthless, then no one will love us again.
For me, part of letting go of my guy was focusing on my business.
We cant break the pattern.
I cant overemphasize enoughhow big a role patterns play in our lives.
Think about your daily routines and patterns and how off you feel those days that your routines are broken.
Now imagine this in relationship.
When a relationship is new and good we establish patterns and routines with our partners.
And those patterns and routines become entrenched in our brains.
Breaking them can be nearly impossible.
Do you imagine what Christmas would be like without your partner?
Or wonder who you would go to the movies with on Wednesdays?
See if you could stay away from your guy for eight weeks.
you’ve got the option to do it!
And I can promise you that you will find someone else to go to the movies with on Wednesdays.
Letting go of someone who doesnt love you might be very difficult.
Probably one of the most difficult things you will ever have to do.
But letting go of someone who doesnt love you is very important for a happy life.
Can you imagine spending the rest of your life living with someone who doesnt think that you are amazing?
Who doesnt tell you and show you he loves you every day?
Could you ever be happy if the rest of your life is the same as your life today?
It gave me strength and focus to build my business and my self-esteem.
It made me understand that I could break patterns and not only survive but thrive.
