You deserve someone who genuinely sees in you what you see in them.
You deserve someone who stays, who shows up, who isnt wishy-washy with their feelings.
You deserve someone who knows what they want.
You deserve someone who is honest and genuine and who comes as they are.
There is nothing to be ashamed of.
You see it where no one else does, and that is something to celebrate.
However, you never need to be embarrassed for the way you go to war for people.
Falling for potential is unhealthy.
You have to be able to discern reality from what you would like reality to be.
People will always show you who they are.
As an empath, it is easy to excuse behaviour.
To paint over it, to tell yourself that no one is perfect.
And while that is true, while no one is perfect, you should still be holding them accountable.
Because the red flags are there.
People cannot hide their truth for long.
It isnt your job to fix people if they dont want to fix themselves.
A lot of empaths think that their love can fix those they are with.
The accountability suddenly transfers from the other person, to you.
But some people simply just dont grow into the human beings you are hopeful to love.
Some people dont get better with time.
You will know if someone is committed to doing the work.
To transforming themselves, to doing the inner work.
They are working towards it every single day.
That is when this kind of hope becomes toxic.
Letting go is difficult, but necessary.
Its hard to let go of all of that hope you have for those youve put on a pedestal.
It becomes a balancing act between your disappointment and your belief in the person.
You feel heavy and determined at the same time.
You want to love a little harder, fix a little more, etc.
You dont want to stop caring.
You dont want to relinquish any of the little security you have in a relationship.
But the truth is change is only preemptively difficult.
Its easy to measure what youre losing, and its hard to see what you might gain.
In relationships, as an empath, its hard to give up on someone.
But you have to.
6. give a shot to see things clearly.
You might be fighting for someone who isnt fighting for you.
Youll see that you do deserve more.
Its important to love without attachment.
You have to stop giving this person all of your energy.
You have to give yourself permission to be alone.
To see things for what they are.
To stop chasing after something that isnt ever going to fulfill you.
Attachment is not love.
Dont ever forget that.
Your person is going to be your person for life.
Your person is going to be your person for a really, really long time.
Would you be fulfilled?
Would you want to stay?
Deep down, you know that you deserve more.
Create space for goodness to find you.
This one is simple.
Do not miss out on all of the beauty the world has to offer you because you were distracted.
You are worthy of being loved the way you love others.
And you deserve more.
You deserve someone who genuinely sees in you what you see in them.
You deserve someone who stays, who shows up, who isnt wishy-washy with their feelings.
You deserve someone who knows what they want.
You deserve someone who is honest and genuine and who comes as they are.
You deserve someone who never exhausts your heart in a bad way.
And you are worthy of it.
