3 Likely Reasons Hes Becoming Distant
1.
Hes Stressed
Its pretty widely known that when a man is stressed, he retreats to his man cave.
There is a big difference between knowing something and really understanding it.
Most men dont operate this way.
Now working through his issues doesnt necessarily mean hes sitting there, plotting and strategizing and brainstorming solutions.
Sometimes it means fully unplugging from the situation and playing video games for hours.
Sometimes it means having mindless fun with his guy friends.
If he wants to talk to you about it, hell seek you out.
If he wants your advice, hell ask for it.
Sometimes too much neediness from you is enough to cause him to back away.
Neediness isnt so much a set of behaviors as it is a state of mind.
Thats just a human response whenever someone wants something from us.
Men want to feel wanted and desired, not needed.
This is a very important distinction that most women overlook.
This is how it looks.
Were going to take a situation and see how a needy and non-needy woman responds to it.
Lets say a guy is really swamped at work and hasnt had time to text his partner.
Now lets take the same situation but the woman is in a more needy place.
She takes his lack of texting as a sign hes losing interest.
She starts to panic and immediately texts him.
She wants the assurance that everything is OK, that the relationship is still on track.
If she hears back from him, she feels relieved… for now.
If she doesnt, she spends the entire day spiraling and imagining the worst-case scenarios.
Life is hard enough… who wants a to be in a relationship that makes everything harder?
Who willingly wants to add stress to their lives?
Hes Having Doubts About The Relationship
Doubts are normal, especially as a relationship deepens.
It doesnt necessarily mean anything about you or how great of a girlfriend youve been.
Maybe something happened to spark these doubts (a fight, jealousy, lack of trust, etc.)
or maybe it happened out of the blue.
That time is much better spent investing in yourself and being your best self.
When you do this, you always win.
Both at life and in relationshis.
Why is he acting distant after hooking up all of the sudden?
Did I sleep with him too soon?Its possible that this is rooted in your own insecurity.
Its also possible hes acting distant because he wants to slow the pace a little.
Sex doesnt usually mean much to most men.
For a man, sex is sex and love is love and one doesnt lead to the other.
Some women see sex as a deepening of the relationship.
Is he pulling away from me or just in a mood?A mood will typically be pretty fleeting.
Weve all been there.
If hes pulling away… there will be more consistency in the behavior.
