I didnt know this man.
I gave him trust he didnt deserve.
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Updated 8 years ago,May 22, 2017
People.
Bonnie Kittle
Falling for each others pretensions, fakeness and whatever various faces they can put on to wear.
And then they call it love.
C. JoyBell C.
How do I know this your internet relationship is bulls**t?
I know because I had one.
I know because I thought it was real.
I know because I thought it was right and I thought it would work out.
Bonnie Kittle
I thought he was what he presented.
Im sure you are thinking to yourself, No, my relationship is different.
We are soul mates.
We get each other.
We are meant to be together.
This is true love.
But unfortunately, my friend, youre wrong, just plain wrong.
How do I know?
I met a guy online that lived in another state.
He was way attractive and very charming and very flattering.
I blew him off for months, but he kept pursuing me.
I would laugh at his flattery and roll my eyes at his professed words of admiration.
He wouldnt take no for an answer.
For the next six months we talked day and night via email and skype.
One day, out of the blue he ended things.
I felt like an utter fool.
How had I allowed this to happen?
I didnt know this man.
I gave him trust he didnt deserve.
Can a LDR work?
Anyone can create a fiction of a relationship that exists in fantasy and not reality.
If youve ever watched the show Catfish on MTV then you know what Im talking about.
With my online experience Im pretty sure he used my attention to feed his ego.
Did you also know that only ten percent (10%) of those will end up in marriage?
We all want to belong.
We all want to feel loved and accepted for who we are.
We can disregard common sense in our pursuit to be loved and feel loved.
Real Relationships
The online fantasy you have created is just that fantasy.
Real relationships take work.
Real relationships take two people spending time together.
Honestly, I have a friend like that who lives in Germany that Ive never met.
But, he is just a friend.
I know a number of people that are involved in online only relationships.
Many are still married.
Most are looking for someone to connect with.
The problem with these relationships is that they are idealizing the other person.
Emotional support is so valuable and so necessary.
People lie and cheat and go behind their partners backs to get it.
But, this pop in of support isnt real.
This bang out of love isnt real.
hey Dont
Dont be suckered in by the fantasy.
Dont turn away from your partner and to an affair.
Dont get too far into something that you cant get yourself out of.
If you are considering an online relationship or you are in one then start making plans.
Make plans to spend time together as much as possible.
If things go well after that, then make plans for one of you to move at some point.
Dont do what I did and waste precious moments of your life on something that isnt real.
Dont give your attention and energy to someone who cant give you more than a surface relationship.
However, if you just be aware that you are doing it.
Come to accept that perhaps you arent ready for true intimacy.
Do some work on yourself to address this issue.
If these are the reasons you do it, then I understand, because Ive been there too.
Whatever you do, just dont kid yourself.
Be honest with what you are doing, what you have chosen and why.
