Deal-breakers are meant to enforce and protect your comfort levels as well as your personal development.
They are the scaffolding to your boundaries and the power behind your discernment.
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Updated 6 years ago,August 27, 2019
Many people are open.
Annie Spratt
In the material world, people are not very trustworthy.
People need to prove themselves as worthy of ones trust before you allow yourself to be vulnerable with them.
Humans are sensitive creatures.
But not everyone follows the same moral code, one that stresses confidentiality and respect for another.
As a result, people are hurt and dont know how to process that pain.
They shut down and allow their fear to transform into an unease filled with jadedness and paranoia.
It is an alarm system ensuring when a situation or person will receive you in a sincere way.
Since childhood, we are naturally open, eager, and trusting of the world.
As we grow and mature, we harden, become more dubious and resistant to society.
When we experience trauma or fear, we initially suppress our intuition, receptivity, and vulnerability.
They help form our pain.
Both acts of pressing parts of ourselves down manifest physically, psychically, and spiritually.
We lose out on the enjoyment and tranquility of life because of unawareness or reticence to address our pain.
One of those action items is learning and practicing discernment.
It is an intrinsic sense of knowing that is developed over time through experience.
Most importantly, discernment is symbiotically connected to our self-esteem.
Boundaries and deal-breakers are the external and internal processes of discernment.
They are the scaffolding to your boundaries and the power behind your discernment.
The two sided issue with discernment and deal-breakers is how realistic they are and peoples responses to your boundaries.
If people dont meet every single item on your list of criteria, then they are discarded.
These very people could be the key in that benefit you the most in your journey.
One should not use boundaries to seek perfection.
There needs to be an allowance for mistakes and learning.
The other side of boundaries is people respecting your boundaries.
An improvement in a persons demeanor does not negate their past actions or propensity to repeat an action.
Its a forgive but dont forget approach.
Spiritual development of discernment requires faith and grace.
As you work to heal yourself, trust that you have the aptitude to do so.
What most do not realize is that discernment begins within.
