This triggers a mans need for validation and triggers his need to hunt.
Most men instinctively love the chase and the pursuit of their romantic prospects.
They get bored by pick-me women who serve themselves up on a silver platter with easy access.
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A woman deemed selfish by a man isnt usuallyreallyselfish.
She doesnt lack empathy nor is she cruel.
It is a liabilitynot a benefit, unless she is dealing with a man truly worthy of her.
Thus, a man has to impress her to stay part of her life or get left.
She has her own exciting and fulfilling life that has nothing to do with him.
A selfish woman must be pleased she doesnt go out of her way to just the man shes with.
She has a checklist and vetting criteria for who she allows into her life.
These women are not easily impressed.
He must wine and dine her.
He must actually have top tier lovemaking skills, because she wont be faking her orgasms.
He must come correct, because shes willing to cut him off at the first red flag.
So-called selfish women areboundaried womenand they wont put up with bullshit or con artistry.
Knowing this, do yourself a favor and do not be a pick-me woman in todays society.
Do not minimize or rationalize the red flags in hopes of being chosen.
Do not take a stab at like a man who does not take a stab at like you.
Do not be the cool girl while bottling up resentment and tolerating anyones red flags.
It does not and will never serve you.
If youre going to be anything be a selfish woman.
Put your own needs first.
In a society that does not care about your needs, confirm you do.
Men are afraid to lose the selfish woman because she is not afraid to lose them.
They come and go as they yo.
What will they do next?
You never know what theyre really up to.
One day, theyre traveling the world with their friends.
The next, theyre leading a company.
And another day, they may be burying a bodyjust kidding about this last part, of course.
Women like this inspire fear and cause the power dynamic to shift.
These are the women who cannot be silenced, controlled, or micromanaged.
He resents her, but he also desires her.
Getting the high-maintenance selfish woman every other man desires is a trophy for him and his ego.
Selfish women have emotional control and are taken more seriously.
She speaks out when she wants to.
She does not perform for a man or pretend.
She focuses on what she wants and needs and fills her own cup first before tending to anyone else.
This is unheard of for women because they are conditioned to do everything but.
Why doesnt this woman want him or fear losing him?
To them, lowering their standards for a lackluster man who doesnt meet their needs feels violating and appalling.
To be deemed a selfish woman in todays society can be quite the compliment, if you know yourself.
Its not about being cruel, or callous, or unempathic.
Its about valuing yourself in a society that wants to keep you small.
