It could be a guy youre casually seeing, or maybe its your long-term partner.
No matter what the case, its disconcerting and you cant help but feel panicked and on edge.
Did you do something to upset him?
Megan Ruth
Is helosing interestin you?
Does he want to break up with you?
These are all terrifying questions to ask … especially when its regarding a man you really care about.
The fact is, men dopull awayand come back in relationships.
Its a naturally occurring cycle and happens for important reasons.
Men typically retreat and withdraw into their man cave when dealing with stress or difficulties.
It feels good for a woman to talk to her close friends and family when shes upset.
This doesnt feel good to most men.
Most men feel ashamed when theyre off their game.
And the last thing they want to do is be seen by others.
This is crushing and crippling to a man.
You feel almost offended that he doesnt want to open up to you.
You might think it means he doesnt really love or trust you.
But thats not the case.
He does care, and thats the reason hes doing this!
Fine, maybe you would love him no matter what but its still not a good feeling for him.
So he withdraws and takes space.
Hes dealing with problems that have nothing to do with you.
So when something comes up, he will put all his energy and attention into it.
The relationship is moving too fast.
Relationships often start out at lightning speed, and this isnt alwayshealthy.
In the beginning, its all so exciting and exhilarating so the momentum is strong.
Youre flying on a surge of feel-good hormones like Dopamine and Oxytocin.
And really, whats the rush here?
This is a common occurrence in new relationships that started off with a bang.
Hes having doubts about the relationship.
This is more common in a long-term relationship.
Look, sometimes people have doubts.
If thats whats going on, he may want some time away to sort through his feelings.
And this will work to your advantage because you not being there gives him the space to miss you.
Youre doing something thats causing him to withdraw.
Most men want their lives easy and drama-free.
This doesnt mean you have to be on your best behavior at all times.
As I said, the first scenario is the most common, but the others are likely as well.
Youll just have to assess your individual situation.
So What Should I Do When Hes Pulling Away?
Feeling upset can put us in a very selfish frame of mind.
All we see is our pain and we have a go at find ways out of it.
Obviously, this shouldnt drag on forever.
He cant just keep you on the back burner.
So give it a few weeks and then reassess whats going on.
Either way, use this time to better yourself.
Thats the best thing it’s possible for you to do for yourself and your relationship.
Then set small, achievable goals for yourself to get there.
