Why do men pull away in the early stages?
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Updated 5 months ago,November 15, 2024
Its an all too common question.
Suddenly he seems to be pulling away.
Timothy Tarasov
So whats going on?
Is it something you said?
Something you didnt do?
The worst is if this is apattern for you, if youve experienced this sort of thing multiple times.
How are you not to take it personally?
Maybe it means that youre the problem.
Chances are its not you andyou arent doomed.
No one likes to have the uncomfortable relationship conversation.
Girls hate it and men despise it.
It is hard to tell someone to their face that you are no longer interested.
Its hard and painful and it makes you feel terrible.
Thats literally the only thing you should probably know to understand everything about men.
Its scary to have those conversations.
You dont know how the other person is going to react and you dont know what youre walking into.
Its much safer and more comfortable to just avoid.
Now a guy doesnt usually actively make this decision.
He doesntdecide to pull away… he just kind of puts off having the conversation.
So hes still in the relationship, but not really.
Basically, hes just buying time.
Hes delaying the inevitable and hes lingering.
He pulls away bit by bit until its safe to make a totally clean break.
The first is he just wasnt that into you, to begin with.
Whatever the case, there just isnt enough chemistry and fundamental compatibility to make a relationship work.
And these things cant be faked or forced.
Theyre either there, or not.
So if this is the case, then there isnt much it’s possible for you to do.
If this guy doesnt want that, then theres nothing to think about.
The next reason a guy will pull away is that youre doing something thats turning him off.
Usually, the most commonculprit is neediness.
Neediness isnt what you think.
Its not the desperate girl acting like a lunatic and stalking her man and begging him to love her.
Neediness is more subtle than that.
Neediness is a mindset more than a set of behaviors.
You need him to shower you with compliments or you will feel insecure and unworthy.
Suffice to say, this is a huge turn off for pretty much all men.
No guy wants to be responsible for your emotional wellbeing and that just isnt his job.
He cant make you feel a certain way.
Guys also dont want to be the sole center of your universe.
She has a life outside of the relationship and has many elements in her life that bring her joy.
She doesnt only extract joy and a sense of worth from her relationship.
When you are in the needy state of mind, you act in off-putting ways.
You are unhappy, insecure, demanding, resentful, clingy, and just not pleasant to be around.
How to Stop Him From Pulling Away
Its actually very simple.
Just let it flow and go with it.
If he isnt your official boyfriend, then dont act like his girlfriend.
Dont close yourself off to other guys and take down your dating profiles.
Be as committed to him as he is to you.
If he hasnt clearly and explicitly claimed you as his then you are free to do whatever you like.
This is just desperation and neediness all dressed up.
It is a huge mistake to put all your eggs in one basket.
This is how you set the stage to be devastated.
So keep your options open.
This doesnt mean you have to juggle dating ten guys at a time.
Maybe theres no one you want to date at this exact moment.
Another important point is to focus on loving yourself andloving your life.
Have a balanced, well-rounded life full of people you love and activities you enjoy.
Do whatever makes you feel happy and alive.
Make it a priority to do these things.
Problems dont just solve themselves.
And hurt feelings dont disappear just because they go unacknowledged.
