We had time to focus on getting to know each other before life got too complicated.
I didnt walk into this relationship with previous notions about love or trust issues.
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Updated 8 years ago,June 12, 2017
My husband and I are high school sweethearts.
Anne Edgar
We were junior high sweethearts, meeting in 7th grade at the art table.
Weve been together ever since.
This October, we will celebrate 6 years of marriage.
Anne Edgar
Many critics will probably highlight the negatives of marrying your high school sweetheart.
Wheres the spontaneous chance to play the field?
Life without him, even in exchange for freedom was never worth it.
However, I can agree there are negatives to marrying your high school sweetheart.
Think of your most awkward stage in junior high or high school.
Now imagine your spouse was there to witness those moments live.
All in all, I think there are many benefits to marrying your high school sweetheart.
Most relationships must weather periods of change and turmoil at some point.
For some, these times come after marriage, when the stakes are even higher.
For us, though, the periods of turmoil and change came before marriage.
This summer, we attended our 10-year high school reunion.
We both had people to see and stories to tell.
Walking into your 10-year reunion with a fellow classmate beside you makes the whole process less intimidating.
We see the world in somewhat similar ways because we grew up in the same part of the world.
We both have similar threads, leading to shared perspectives, values, and even a stronger bond.
When we said I do, we had a decade of being together under our belts.
Certainly, marriage is always difficult and complex.
Minus the awkward ___th grade photo you hate, of course.
Proms, graduations, danceswe have photos from all of the momentous occasions with both of us in them.
For many high school sweethearts, friendship and the emotional bond is at the forefront of the early years.
We can reminisce together and share in the laughter of the past.
We still live in our hometown, so we sometimes see old peers when were out.
The connection that comes from a common past helps us share in more moments together.
Certainly, we had devastating moments as a couple.
There were moments of tears, of anger, of regret, of guilt.
There were fights that plagued us; there are still fights today.
No love is perfect.
Still, our hearts remain relatively trauma-free.
I didnt have to agonize over failed relationship after failed relationship to find the elusive one.
I didnt experience tons of heartbreak before finding a man who completed me.
Some would call this a detrimental consequence of marrying your high school sweetheart.
Heartbreak is a human emotion that allows you to see love with eyes of truth.
To be honest, I dont know if this is true or not.
I didnt walk into this relationship with previous notions about love or trust issues.
Being together in high school means we spent a lot of time with our families.
I knew my in-laws like my own family before we got married, and vice versa.
At 28, Ive already had 16 years with my husband.
Weve had 16 years of laughs, of memories, of hand holding, of fun.
Weve had 16 years of holidays, of trips, of simple moments in our hometown.
My experience may not be everyones experience.
As I said, one can certainly find negative aspects to marrying someone you were with in high school.
Not everyone can marry their high school sweetheart.
For some, the time for this has already passed.
If this happens in high school, great.
With some hard work and dedication, the rest will fall into place.
