Because someone who overthinks is also someone who overloves.
Now youve been talking in your sleep.
Things you never say to me.
Brooke Cagle
Add anxiety into the picture and someone who overthinks and its almost unbearable sometimes.
Moments of doubt and confusion.
Problems created that arent actually problems.
Overthinking is what potentially ruins relationships.
But people who have anxiety cant help it.
Its understanding their mind plays tricks on them.
Understand they are paying really close attention to everything you say.
They are paying attention to every look, every eye roll, every gesture.
Picking up on little things that might not mean anything.
But they analyze it and think too much about it creating problems in their mind.
Simply put, anxiety is just a warning of something bad that could happen.
But its those what-ifs and maybe that make things hard.
Overcome with fear of those things becoming a reality sometimes it just paralyzes the person.
Its reassuring them often that things are fine.
Whether anything happened or not, just tell them things are okay.
That you still care.
That youre still there for them.
And it sounds silly but people with anxiety appreciate that.
Even a lack of a response you might not think needs an answer will throw someone with anxiety off.
Itll lead to them thinking theyve done something wrong.
At the start of relationships, every little thing they are going to worry about.
They are almost too cautious sometimes.
Its being the one who is always sure because they never will be.
People with anxiety are very indecisive even about little things.
They are going to ask your opinion and what you think and what would make you happy.
Understand it isnt their fault.
Its just how theyve been programmed.
Its being able to read them carefully.
When they respond with one word, something is probably wrong.
When they use the word fine they probably arent.
When they are looking constantly at their phone, they are waiting for an answer.
When they drive too quickly its because they are worried about being late.
Everyone with anxiety has their little ticks.
Things they might not even notice that they do.
Learn to love them and love the things about themselves they struggle to.
Its valuing communication because thats essential.
Their minds will wander and make every assumption possible.
Talking things out is so important.
People with anxiety are harder on themselves than anyone and they will internalize everything and take it personally.
They care about saying and doing everything right and making someone happy and thats what it comes down to.
Its knowing how to talk them down when they worry.
Understand there are some things you wont be able to fix.
Sometimes just being there is enough so they know they arent alone.
Its loving them for exactly who they are.
How can you accept something about yourself that only seems to cause problems?
As their partner its your job to love them in those moments they dont love themselves.
Its your job to be sure when they are doubting everything.
Its your job to hold them when to them their world is falling apart.
Its your job to not think much of it.
The double texts you might get.
And in return for all of that under every bit of anxiety is a heart that cares so much.
They will accept every part of you.
Never stop showing you they care and appreciate you.Because someone who overthinks is also someone who overloves.
