Your love is your love.
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Updated 6 years ago,July 6, 2019
I believe in love.
I believe that there is a love for everyone out there.
Tim Savage
I am, without a doubt, a hopeless romantic.
I think my husband is the most wonderful, gorgeous, amazing man on the planet.
I know hes my forever human, I know hes the love of my life.
But phrases like true love can be problematic.
Its between you and that other person.
(Or maybe youre polyamorous, and its between you and another person.)
Its for you to figure out.
Its for you to discover.
Its for you to unpack, and delight in, and call your own.
You get to decide what your roles look like in your marriage or relationship.
You get to paint your own true love masterpiece.
Maybe you work, and your partner doesnt.
Maybe your partner works, and you dont.
Maybe you both travel for work, and much of your relationship is long distance.
Maybe you live together, but dont ever want to get married.
Maybe one of you wants to stay home with the kids, and the other doesnt.
Maybe you split all the bills 50/50, and maybe you dont.
Maybe you have joint credit cards, or maybe you dont.
Maybe you yell a little too much.
Maybe they dont speak when something is bothering them.
Maybe its something else entirely.
Maybe youve painted an entirely new picture, one thats just for you and your beloved.
And you know what?
That new picture is beautiful.
Its just for you.
I hope it uses warm colors, too.
And if the masterpiece that youve created looks a little different than the canvas hanging next to it?
I hope you dont get caught up in that difference for too long.
I hope you celebrate love, in all its forms.
Theres nothing wrong with noticing what works for other people.
And as Lin-Mauel Miranda said, love is love is love.
