Relationships, careers, fitness…we can derail ourselves in all areas of life.
Its a hard reality to confront … when theres no one to blame.
Ive been writing about relationships for years and cant help but notice patterns in where women go wrong.
Its not anyones fault.
No one sets out with bad intentions, trying to sabotage theirrelationship.
Usually, all a woman wants is to keep her relationship strong and happy.
One area where people go wrong is in not working on themselves and letting less-than-ideal character traits go unchecked.
Yeah, being this way might be yourself, but its the worst of you.
Why not make an effort to refine those weak spots and be your best self?
This is how you win.
You choose partners who cant give you what you want.
You will never get what you want if you keep settling for what you dont want.
It can happen when deep down you feel unworthy, you feel not good enough.
And these feelings are usually rooted in childhood pain and trauma.
And this is because the subconscious mind is always looking to prove itself right.
If you believe you are unworthy, you will be drawn to partners who make you feel that way.
You dont understand your triggers.
attempt to identify what it is, especially when you have a strong reaction to something pretty trivial.
Trace it back to your childhood- what were your unmet needs?
And how might these needs be showing up in your adult relationships?
You commit too soon.
Healthy relationships build slowly and evolve organically.
There isnt a need to force things to move in a certain direction.
Maybe you see this person as a chance to save you from something.
And the other person will most likely be put off by this.
You also may come across as toodesperateand needy and this is a universal turn-off.
This, in turn, will push away the very thing you want the most.
You have to get to the heart of the fear- where is it coming from?
What is the root?
And challenge the fears.
Maybe you think you wont find anyone… is that true?
Can you know with 100% certainty thats true?
No, you cant.
So stop engaging with a thought that keeps you stuck where you dont want to be.
Notice your thoughts throughout the day and ask yourself: Does this thought serve me well?
Does this take me where I want to go?
If the answer is no, then stop engaging with the thought!
You are the victim.
Look, it happens to the best of us.
We fall into the victim mentality and its hard to get out of it.
you better take responsibility.
Take responsibility for yourself, for your life, for your actions and reactions.
Yes, I know life isnt fair.
And its more unfair to some than others.
But wallowing in this doesnt serve you, it stunts you.
You have to look at yourself in the mirror and ask: How am I contributing to my misfortune?
And how can I turn it around?
How are you keeping yourself stuck and what can you do today to break free?
