Letting go of those hopes and dreams can be devastating.
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Updated 5 years ago,March 6, 2020
Are you in a complicated relationship?
Are you wondering if its a healthy one?
Lina Kivaka
This is a complicated question and one worth some serious consideration before taking action.
I believe that are three reasons to even considerletting go of someone you lovefor their own good.
I will address each of them here and reasons that you might consider letting them go.
Their baggage is hurting the relationship.
Are you madly in love with a person who is very damaged.
Someone who is hard to be with because of their damage.
We believe that they cant possibly get better if we dont stand by their side.
Who tiptoes around to prevent an angry outburst.
These things are understandable and I know you feel supportive but they arent helping your person get any better.
In fact, they could be making them worse.
And that might happen.
You will just be miserable.
So that they have a chance to be healthy and happy.
And you do too.
You dont love them the way you should.
So, for selfish reasons, I held on and we were both miserable.
If you love someone, but know that you dont love them enough, let them go.
And I get it.
Give you both a chance for happiness.
You are yo-yoing.
Are you in a relationship with someone who you love but arent sure you want to be with?
Perhaps, because of this, you tell your person that you need some time.
You move out of the house, or stop calling or ghost them.
You put an end to the relationship.
And then, a day or a week or a month later, you go back to them.
Whatever the reason, you go back.
And you leave again.
This is called yo-yoing and it can be devastating for the person being left behind.
They venture to change who they are, hoping that things will be different this time.
They are tormented by what their person is doing after breaking up with them.
If you find yourself coming and going with your person, stop!
make a run at look outside of your own selfish needs and let them go.
Considering letting go of someone you love for their own good is a big deal.
When we first meet and fall in love, we have so many hopes and dreams for the future.
Letting go of those hopes and dreams can be devastating.
The goal in life is to be happy.
Letting go of someone you love will make that a possibility for both of you.
