Youre not defined by the person who never gave you a chance because he was hung up on another lover or the person who only wanted to be friends because he couldnt see you as anything more than that.
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Updated 6 years ago,August 27, 2019
Youre not defined by the father who wasnt there for youor the mother who abandoned you.Youre not defined by the brother who never loved youor the sister who couldnt be your best friend.
Youre not defined by the first crush who lied to youand used you to make someone else jealous.Youre not defined by the boyfriend who left youbecause he couldnt handle being in a real relationship.
Youre not defined by the person who never gave you a chancebecause he was hung up on another loveror the person who only wanted to be friendsbecause he couldnt see you as anything more than that.
Youre not defined by those who couldnt love youor those who failed to see what sets you apart.Youre not defined by those who walked away from youbecause they didnt deserve to stay.
I know its hard to be in these situations.I know youve forgotten how to be lovedand how to love without getting hurt.Youve forgotten what real love feels like.
I know youre tired of one-sided loveand people who lead you on.I know youre haunted by the ghostsof your past and painful heartbreaks.
But you cant be wholewithout knowing what its like to be broken.You cant expect someone to save youuntil you learn how to save yourself.
You wouldnt be strong if you couldnt endureall the chaos, all the pain, all the injusticeand you cant be a person worth lovingif you cant love yourself when no one loves you.
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So youre not defined by those who left.Youre not defined by their lack of love.You dont need their validation.You only need yours.
Rania Naim is a poet and author of the new bookAll The Words I Should Have Said, availablehere.
