amount of love you have for them has zero correlation to how good they will treat you.
When we first meet someone and the fireworks go off, we view them through the rosiest of lenses.
Its the most ideal picture of love we can paint for ourselves.
Priscilla Du Preez
In our perfect honeymoon world, there is absolutely nothing that can ruin this person for us.
Eventually, the novelty inevitably wears off and we start seeing this person differently.
Their rough edges start showing.
Those red flags you brushed off before are starting to feel more like emergency lights and sirens.
The behavior you would have shrugged off months ago becomes more and more concerning.
What happens, though, when it seems like something more is going on?
What if we start to see absolute deal breakers?
We still want them to be the flawless person our brains made them out to be.
We can help them do better, be better, and fix whats wrong.
Its what makes our lives meaningful and worth living.
At the end of the day, though, its not enough.
The amount of love you have for them has zero correlation to how good they will treat you.
It can be really hard to not take those facts personally.
In the moment, it might make you feel like theres something wrong with you.
You wonder why they wont love you back enough to be better for you.
Stop for a minute and think about how hard it is to change yourself.
Once you embrace that reality, youll see how slim your chances are at changing others.
Realize that its not you.
You shouldnt waste years of your life trying to love your way past deal breakers and fixing another person.
Their journey is their own, and yours belongs to you.
Take all the love you were giving to the wrong person and pour it back into yourself.
Focus on whoyouwant to become and the person youd like to be.
As difficult as it may be to let go, remember that your love is immeasurably valuable.
