Thats why so many peoples lives seem to fall apart after they lose the one they loved.
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Updated 6 years ago,December 11, 2018
Heartbreak blows.
Getting your heart broken isnt something you should be looking forward to, but it is a necessity.
Yoann Boyer
Or at least, I believe it to be.
Im not sure that a person can truly love correctly if theyve never lost love.
Its too easy to brush off heartbreak as commonplace, only to inevitably find yourself deeply wounded and scarred.
Yoann Boyer
But all the bad that is heartbreak isnt pointless.
Theres a reason youre feeling so horrible.
But only if you choose to make it better.
I wish I had someone explain to me what Im about to explain to you.
There are benefits of having your heart ripped out of your chest cavity.
Here are six of them:
1.
It rids you of that perfect fairytale notion.
Growing up, I had a very unrealistic view of love.
I saw love as this magical goal that, if attained, would make me eternally happy.
As adults, thats how some of us still imagine love.
Heartbreak introduces you to the pain and sadness that defines love.
It isnt pleasant, but it is necessary.
It shows you some of the lowest lows in life.
Heartache is the feeling that fills the void formerly known as love.
The deeper the love, the deeper the hole and the more heartache needed to fill it.
The longer you sulk, the deeper you dig that hole until you eventually hit rock bottom.
Having your heart broken isnt something you could just shake off not if the love was real.
Thats why so many peoples lives seem to fall apart after they lose the one they loved.
Are you a fighter?
Or are you a coward?
It makes you question whether theres a purpose to this experience we call life.
Finding the love of your life makes everything feel right.
It makes you feel as if the universe was somehow corroborating in your favor.
You were so certain you found the one.
Maybe theres no such thing as true love?
Maybe there is no purpose to anything.
Maybe, maybe not.
What matters is that youre finally asking the right questions.
In other words, you come one step closer to the truth.
Let me put it this way, youll know it when it happens to you.
You feel lost and confused, barely knowing which way is up and which is down.
The way you think the world worked has proven to be wrong.
Youre feeling sluggish and depressed.
Then you either lose control of your life, or simply let go of it.
All of these things make living your life difficult.
It makes you self-reliant.
The biggest mistake people make in a relationship is based on the biggest misconception we have on love.
Love is a joining of two people, two lives, two souls.
However, its more like the holding of hands than it is a full fusion.
You are (and always will be) your own person.
People run into relationships to make it run away from themselves.
They arent happy with the people they are or with the way their lives are playing out.
This is often because we listen to the opinions of others more than we ought to.
It gives space for new love in your life.
You know that hole youre feeling?
The hole the person you love used to fill?
Well, that hole was always there.
You just werent conscious of it.
You didnt know what you were missing, so you didnt miss it.
You couldnt miss it.
But now that you know the possibilities now that you know how powerful love is you feel deprived.
The good news is the hole can be filled again.
You will fall in love again.
You will get another chance at creating the life you want for yourself.
You will be given all the opportunities you oughta be the person you oughta be.
Now that theyve left, you have room for something better in your life someone better.
But only if you allow yourself to completely let go.
So, what are you waiting for?
