He reframes conversations, memories, or stories to be retold in his favor.
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Updated 4 years ago,September 4, 2021
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He calls you crazy.
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You find that he lies to you constantly.
Lying blatantly to your face is easy and almost natural to him.
you’re free to present irrefutable evidence of his lies and he will still insist that youre wrong.
He will still deny.
Hes extremely convincing, even when your gut is telling you hes lying.
You have a lot of nonsensical conversations.
They make such complicated arguments and twist the truth so much that you become confused.
He discredits you to others.
He brands you with the label of thecrazy girlfriendorcontrolling partner.
He makes it appear that hes the victim of your behavior or mental state.
He discredits others to you.
He often forgets or denies and displays selective memory.
He claims to forget events that have occurred, especially if they dont favor him.
He denies having made promises of significance to you.
He will say things like that never happened or I never said that.
He questions your memory and accuses you of making things up.
He reframes conversations, memories, or stories to be retold in his favor.
You doubt your version of the truth and second guess your memory.
He trivializes by minimizing your thoughts and feelings.
He often accuses you of overreacting and being too sensitive.
You are often told by him to calm down.
He makes you believe that YOU are the problem, effectively communicating that you are wrong.
He doesnt acknowledge your feelings, thoughts, or beliefs.
He dismisses your thoughts and feelings as absurd.
They become a weapon.
Youve found yourself questioning your thoughts, feelings, and beliefs yourself.
Youve found yourself doubting your sense of reality and perceptions.
You dont feel validated, understood, or seen with him.
His mistakes often become your own.
The blame is constantly shifted to you.
He denies any wrongdoing and doesnt acknowledge your pain.
You apologize when hes the one that should be apologizing.
You become convinced everything is your fault.
You are constantly apologizing for what you do and who you are.
You often feel like youve done something wrong or have screwed up somehow.
You never feel good enough.
Youve stopped confronting him in certain situations because youve started to invalidate your own emotions.
He has tried to mold you and change you into his ideal.
He becomes angry when your views dont align with his.
He becomes angry when you challenge his views or attempt to have an open-minded conversation.
You dont speak up in order not to spark an argument.
You stay silent to avoid reality twists.
You dont speak up to avoid any kind of verbal abuse.
You lie to avoid his reaction, verbal abuse, put downs, or simply not to argue.
You make excuses for his behavior.
He uses your fears, vulnerabilities, and insecurities against you.
He claims to know what you are thinking and accuses you of lying when you dont admit to it.
He accuses you of having ridiculous ulterior motives.
You lost all your self-confidence and self-esteem.
You find it hard to make even small decisions.
His behavior and attitude confuses you.
He doesnt apologize unless hes using it as a method to reel you back in.
He uses compassionate words only in the same situations and says exactly what you want to hear.
His words dont reflect his actions.
You are often trying to shut thoughts down that something is off about him.
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